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To think what he said in his sleep is evidence of an affair?

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lennon80 Mon 09-Feb-15 09:28:20

My husband has come back from a business trip this weekend having been in Latin America for the last two weeks. Last night in his sleep he was having a 'sexy dream' and I could hear him say things like 'muy bonita' and groining then he was saying' mi amor, mi amor' (My love).

I woke him up and confronted him, he claims that he cant remember the dream and he thinks the only thing it can be is because he has watched some soft porn in Spanish. What do you think?

NeedABumChange Mon 09-Feb-15 09:30:13

Erm... People say a lot of weird crap in their sleep. I wouldn't pay any attention to it. It's certainly not "evidence".

AnyFucker Mon 09-Feb-15 09:30:14

I think I'd like to know what "groining" is

SisterMerror Mon 09-Feb-15 09:32:01

I don't think sleep talking is evidence of an affair. His story adds up to me. Is everything ok in your relationship apart from this or do you have other reasons to worry?

SaucyJack Mon 09-Feb-15 09:32:21

I had sex with Marilyn Manson in a rabbit run once in my sleep. Alice Cooper was presiding over us from a pulpit as well.

Not grounds for divorce IMO.

someonestolemynick Mon 09-Feb-15 09:33:17

That in itself is not evidence for an affair.

veryseriousgirl Mon 09-Feb-15 09:34:04

Erm. I've had (two separate) dreams where I was having affairs with David Milliband and Dave Grohl. Both times, I apparently said their names in my sleep. Neither actually happened (thank god!). smile

Pagwatch Mon 09-Feb-15 09:34:41

Groining sounds like something a jack Russell does.

lennon80 Mon 09-Feb-15 09:35:00

SisterMerror - everything is fine otherwise yes. He did come home significantly more 'randy' than usual - which I think could be explained by the porn? But saying 'I love you and My love' but in Spanish - he wasn't talking to me sad

Higheredserf Mon 09-Feb-15 09:36:42

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fourrugrats Mon 09-Feb-15 09:36:59

I really hope not! I can be very vocal in my sleep, if my husband took it seriously, I would have been divorced years ago grin I don't think you have much to be afraid of!

ghostyslovesheep Mon 09-Feb-15 09:39:28

Jesus love he was asleep! Calm down

maras2 Mon 09-Feb-15 09:39:31

I once had sex with Worzel Gummidge in a dream but didn't speak in Worzelese.Unless Spanish is DH's first language I might be very slightly worried but then if I'm weirded enough to dream of shagging a scarecrow,WTF do I know? grin

Higheredserf Mon 09-Feb-15 09:40:05

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Higheredserf Mon 09-Feb-15 09:41:15

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prh47bridge Mon 09-Feb-15 09:41:34

he wasn't talking to me

No he wasn't. He was talking to someone in his dreams. If you seriously expect him not to even dream of having sex with someone else you are being totally unreasonable. This is not even vaguely evidence of an affair. You are reading far too much into it.

GlitzAndGigglesx Mon 09-Feb-15 09:43:07

I once said "Theo" in my sleep. I was dreaming about Theo Walcott grin. That took some explaining. I don't think for one second your DP is having an affair

wonkylegs Mon 09-Feb-15 09:43:25

Dreams are just that dreams.
Thank god they aren't real or I would think our house has serious structural defects as whenever DH is stressed he 'rescues me' from the roof caving in/wall falling over/floor disappearing.
DS & DH both natter away in their sleep and I've learnt to only listen if I want a good laugh most of the time they have no recollection the next morning.

lennon80 Mon 09-Feb-15 09:43:30

I cant help feeling hurt though, I have dreamt of having sex with other people but I don't think I have ever said I love you to another man in my dreams.

MoanCollins Mon 09-Feb-15 09:45:30

YABVU. If a woman came on here and said her husband had accused her like that it would be called emotional abuse.

lennon80 Mon 09-Feb-15 09:46:10

groining - typo for groaning.... obviously.

Pagwatch Mon 09-Feb-15 09:48:10


I think you should kick him out. I bet he's shagging around in his sleep all the time.

ilovesooty Mon 09-Feb-15 09:48:38

I don't think it was that obviously a typo. Can see why AF asked.

Pagwatch Mon 09-Feb-15 09:49:05

It's a dream. It's not real.

maras2 Mon 09-Feb-15 09:51:03

higheredserf To my shame and to make things worse (if that's possible) it was his daft head.

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