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to not want to be the one to have to make all the decisions when sick

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fibrecruncher Thu 05-Feb-15 12:14:48

I've just lost it with dp. I worked most of the weekend big event I.e. up till 3am on sat, we had family visiting from overseas so up and out sunday. He was working away m-w. I am the primary carer for our ds 17 months during the day, but I work 3 evenings a week + saturdays, with a complex web of interim care, family, nanny etc. Our usual nanny broke her ankle, and our temporary nannies son is ill so she called in sick too. I worked monday night, called in sick tues, he gets home late last night. I feel awful again today so called in sick again for tonight. He took the morning rather begrudgingly off work, now I just lost the plot and said he has to take baby to my mums before he can go into the office.

I feel guilty for insisting he change around his work schedule. But if he's sick, he sends one email and gets to lay in bed till recovered. I usually take ds off to mums so he can recover in peace. I'm sick and I still have to try and juggle cover for work its a small business with classes to cover. And take care of ds. AIBU to ask him to step up?

Gosh, rant over!! Feel better already

Nolim Thu 05-Feb-15 12:20:16

Yanbu. In fact i think it is a good idea to set up a contingency plan for this situations and taking turns calling sick is perfectly fine.

FryOneFatManic Thu 05-Feb-15 13:05:41

YANBU, he needs to understand he is equally the parent of your child. And act accordingly.

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