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to not want to kiss my friends everytime we meet.

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carlajean Tue 03-Feb-15 18:34:23

I love my friends, but feel as though we've got into a ritual of kissing on the cheek, either one side, or both, (or even 3 times) everytime we meet and leave each other. Then, if there's some one else with them, I end up doing the same with them, so they don't feel left out and it ends up a whole mhwah mhwah session. Plus I don't want to kiss everytime.
I guess this makes me a cold fish, but does anyone else feel like this, and just wish that we could go back to saying 'hi'.
(and please don't tell me it's a 1st world problem, I know it is)

MrsTedCrilly Tue 03-Feb-15 18:37:53

YANBU smile I love hugs from people when I greet them but kisses aren't needed, and mostly end in an awkward position or both presenting a cheek! It was worse when I lived in the Middle East and it was 3 kisses.. I just let them manoeuvre me so I didn't mess it up smile

Sychnant Tue 03-Feb-15 18:38:10

Ick. I would hate this! Don't see the need.

No-one tries it with me to be fair. Think I've perfected the "GET AWAY!!!" glare :D

Mrsbird311 Tue 03-Feb-15 18:38:54

I am so with you on this, when did seeing people end up in a huge snog fest, when did we all become continental ? I hate it and find a big two handed wave to the whole group gets me out of it most times, the worst is when strangers think they need to kiss you , I had a rather intimate waxing session and afterwards, as I said goodbye she launched in for a kiss it was bad enough that she was on first name terms with my hahoha but the kissing lark no way!!!!

JamesAndTheGiantBanana Tue 03-Feb-15 18:39:06

I don't like kiss hello/goodbye or hugs. I keep telling people but they don't think I'm being serious, and hug me anyway.

I mean really, I don't want your tits on me. Ever. Or your mouth. hmm

Eastwickwitch Tue 03-Feb-15 18:39:52

YANBU, lots of my friends do this. I've found that if I blow them a kiss first it stops all that nonsense.

QueenBean Tue 03-Feb-15 18:41:59

Ha ha, I totally agree!!

I always give my friends a kiss on the cheek and a hug, a friend of mine who thinks of herself as a bit cosmopolitan always tries to give me a kiss on each cheek and say, no, you're a friend of mine, kiss and hug it is

People who know each other well and air kiss on each cheek are absolute twats

thehumanjam Tue 03-Feb-15 18:42:17

I agree.

I can understand people wanting that kind of contact when you haven't seen each other for a while but some people go completely over the top and I don't like it at all.

PoppySausage Tue 03-Feb-15 18:42:57

I'm with you on this! Hate hate hate... Add in the huns, babes and being referred to as ladies and I want to punch them goodbye not kiss them!!

Nocturne123 Tue 03-Feb-15 18:43:12

I haven't found many people do that here (ni) or amongst my friends anyway. I would hate it a lot so I don't think yabu .

How do you get around it though ? I don't think you can confused

Katiepoes Tue 03-Feb-15 19:02:43

Ugh worst thing about living in Holland - they all do it. I can't bear it and now just say 'sorry I don't do the kissing thing' with a smile. It has spread to some workplaces now, the HORROR - I find standing as far away as you can when you say hello and kind of angling yourself a tiny bit from your waist so your right arm crosses you as you stick it out to shake hands works on most. Or clutching a laptop/handbag like a shield...

It must stop. Yeuch.

wobblyweebles Tue 03-Feb-15 19:22:55

I love kissing British people on the cheek. You get the best reactions :-D

Latara Tue 03-Feb-15 19:25:00

I don't like it. One of my friends went to public school & her group of friends does this - I find it really awkward especially when someone's husband kisses me on both cheeks!

Bowlersarm Tue 03-Feb-15 19:25:01

How often do you see them?

Aw, I like kissing my friends.

JADS Tue 03-Feb-15 19:28:54

I used to live on the continent and I didn't mind this type of kissing. It's an ingrained part of their culture. It is not a British thing in any way shape or form. My late fil who was a lovely man seemed to think this was the done thing and I found it really cringey.


egnahc Tue 03-Feb-15 19:29:17

i dont hug or kiss by choice. I have a client who is quite well known- he always hugs and kisses- both men and women.

superzero Tue 03-Feb-15 19:36:57

I don't like it either.I really only want to kiss DH & DCs.In social scenarios (especially DH family) if kissing seems expected I'll offer 1 cheek kiss,2 feels pretentious and superficial to me but I sometimes go along with it so as not to offend. I would rather hug my friends than air kiss twice!I noticed it more when I lived in London and feel more comfortable up North where it is not the norm.

Tinks42 Tue 03-Feb-15 19:37:21

YANBU, I don't like this either. A hello should suffice.

impatienceisavirtue Tue 03-Feb-15 19:38:21

I hate it so much. Makes me so uncomfortable

ohisay Tue 03-Feb-15 19:41:16

I don't like it either, I sound like a ice queen but I don't do the hug and kiss thing except with my husband and children.....friends just creeps me out!

okeydonkey Tue 03-Feb-15 19:42:58

I have to do this with my FIL I HATE it!! A kiss each cheek !

EvansOvalPiesYumYum Tue 03-Feb-15 19:46:42

Cheek kissing I can tolerate - it's when male friends always swoop in for a mouth kiss that makes me recoil. I mean - really? I usually do a stealth cheek turn as they swoop, or for a persistent mouther, I have been known to stand fast and done an absolute refusal.

DisgraceToTheYChromosome Tue 03-Feb-15 19:48:00

I was cheek-to-cheeked by one of the new admins at my agency, which was rather startling and quite brave given my normal expression. My manager promptly shouted "Agnieska! Put Disgrace down, I know where he's been!". Tsk.

BriocheBriocheBrioche Tue 03-Feb-15 19:50:22

I moved to France 3.5 years ago and it's taken me along time to get used to kissing distant relatives and other virtual strangers on both cheeks!
I think im just about used to it now!
My dd is only two and kisses her buddies at creche before she leaves!

Stormingateacup Tue 03-Feb-15 20:05:12

I have a mental list amongst my friends of who is a kisser, who isn't and who's a double kisser to avoid any awkward clashes.

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