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To be struggling to work out my best contraceptive option?

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squeakpiggysqueak Sat 31-Jan-15 21:20:46

Am finding this quite hard. Name changed as obviously it's a bit personal.

I know the normal port of call is a family planning clinic but there are none local to me. My GP surgery is pretty shit, and are only interested in promoting depo and mirena.

I've had depo, it's had a terrible effect on me - constant bleeding, not just spotting, headaches, weight gain and mood swings. I'm 42, I'd never taken hormonal contraception before and wish I'd never bothered, it very clearly doesn't agree with me.

After nearly a year on depo I've given up. Latest injection was due last week, I didn't have it.

So where does that leave me and my partner? I'm not prepared to take the chance of any form of hormonal contraception again. It clearly doesn't suit me. I know if I try the pill, or mirena, it'll be the same and my GP will keep saying blithely oh it gets better after 3/6/9/12 months. But it doesn't!

It's a relatively new relationship of just over 12 months. My partner isn't keen to have a vasectomy as he is only mid 30s (we don't want any more children, but if we split up, or I died -hopefully not! - in the next 10-15 years he might have children with a new partner). A vasectomy seems pretty final to both of us and I understand his reluctance.

So to my mind that leaves us with condoms. Not an issue for either of us except in that they do stop the flow slightly. I've also had condoms break in the past (once with my current partner) so that's a bit of a worry.

Are there any other options I'm missing? My cycle has been all over place for last few years (no period for 3 months, then one that lasted for 3 months, then every 6 weeks, every 2 weeks and then totally random) and all this even before the current constant bleeding, so we couldn't just simply avoid when I'm ovulating or whatever.

gallicgirl Sat 31-Jan-15 21:24:11

Do you want children in the future?

Cotherstone Sat 31-Jan-15 21:26:19

The cap?

PiggyBeekman Sat 31-Jan-15 21:26:30

Copper coil? Periods are heavier I've found but never any spotting in between. I love being hormone-free, I didn't realise what effect the pill had on me for all those years until I stopped taking it.

GertyD Sat 31-Jan-15 21:26:58

You can have your tubes clamped. my SIL did, and never looked back. It obviously involves some surgery but it is relatively minor and at least it involves no hormones. Better than the coil, which I always considered a medieval torture device.

squeakpiggysqueak Sat 31-Jan-15 21:27:10

No, I already have children, no plans for more at my age!

lanbro Sat 31-Jan-15 21:30:02

Sterilisation for you? Diaphragm?

I've just had the implant removed as it really affected my mental wellbeing but my dh is almost 44, our family is definitely complete so he is going down the snip route.

squeakpiggysqueak Sat 31-Jan-15 21:30:13

My partner has had a really bad experience with his ex and the coil (he was 'poked' by the end during sex...ouch!) so would prefer me to avoid that if possible.

Would having my tubes clamped affect me hormonally at all (please forgive my ignorance!)

Amethyst24 Sat 31-Jan-15 21:32:40

I'd revisit the copper coil if I were you. The poking thing, whilst ouchy and grim, is v v v unusual - I've had a couple of coils dislodge but I've definitely known when it's happened. If you were concerned you could just check more frequently.

gallicgirl Sat 31-Jan-15 21:36:07

If you definitely don't want more children then consider sterilisation. It has no hormonal effects as ovaries remain.

dementedpixie Sat 31-Jan-15 21:39:22

I didn't get on ok with depo but was fine with cerazette mini pill. I am also ok with the mirena coil. If the strings are too long and can be felt during sex then they can be shortened. Mine have disappeared through the cervix so can't be felt but it will make removal a bit awkward!

squeakpiggysqueak Sat 31-Jan-15 21:46:14

My partner had the problem with the coil from when his Ex had it put in, she went back to her GP, they said it was in the right place, but when they tried to have sex again, same thing happened. So she had it removed.

Maybe sterilization is the best option? I do know though that lots of my female relatives start menopause in their early/mid there any way I could get my GP to check if I'm even still fertile (and save myself an op!) or is that not likely to be 100% reliable?

LokiBear Sat 31-Jan-15 21:50:38

The implant is the only form of contraceptive that I've had zero issues with. I've tried them all.

dementedpixie Sat 31-Jan-15 21:55:19

have you tried any of the pills as one of them could suit - you have a choice of combined (take for 21 days, off for 7 days) or the mini pill (take every day with no break)

SophieBarringtonWard Sat 31-Jan-15 21:59:44

Copper coil.

Whitewhine Sat 31-Jan-15 22:07:42

Essure sterilisation - no surgery required, done in the out-patient department and doesn't interfere with hormones. I had it done last year and don't regret it one bit!

HappySeven Sat 31-Jan-15 22:09:36

I would agree with talking to your GP about the coil. Mine left my strings longer as she'd had patients say their partners complained about being 'stabbed'. Mine's been fine for 5 years and my periods are still v light. Not guaranteed for everyone but might be ok for you.

ReallyBadParty Sat 31-Jan-15 22:09:37

I've had essure and it's been brilliant: quick, painless. No op, no babies, no condoms.

LastOneDancing Sat 31-Jan-15 22:16:50

I used the neuvaring. It is hormonal but it's very low dose as it sits right next to where it needs to work. Info here

Easy to put in/ remove once a month. Can't forget to take it and if it doesn't suit, whip it out. My periods went back to normal within a month of stopping to TTC. Love it.

But be prepared for your Gp never to have heard of it and the pharmacy has to order it in confused oh and you have to keep your spares in the fridge.

a2011x Sun 01-Feb-15 09:03:03

Copper coil, diaphragm , condoms.

I would recommend diaphragm to you because copper coil can make already irregular / heavy periods worse

Good luck

ourglass Sun 01-Feb-15 09:20:44

That experience with the coil is rare. I would give it a go - never had problems with mine and I've had them on and off for years.

ourglass Sun 01-Feb-15 09:21:08

Ps I've always had a copper coil, and never had an side effects.

squeakpiggysqueak Sun 01-Feb-15 10:34:56

Coil is a definite no no given what happened to my partner.

Essure sterilization sounds perfect, will speak to my GP .. I suspect knowing my useless surgery I'll have a battle to get referred for it and wait forever for an appt. Maybe I could ask for the cap/ diaphragm in the meantime?

gallicgirl Sun 01-Feb-15 14:35:58

Make sure you research Essure. I've seen some negative reports that would make me pause and ask GP for more info.

Runningupthathill82 Sun 01-Feb-15 15:29:03

Just to say that the "cock-stabbing" experience with the coil is not rare - I had it and several friends have had problems too.
Not sure what the answer is, OP, but watching with interest.

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