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smokeandfluffcat Wed 28-Jan-15 15:17:18

To just walk out and start a completely new life in another part of the country?

I guess it's impossible but the thought is pounding in my head today. Has anyone done this? Did it make you happy?

LaurieFairyCake Wed 28-Jan-15 15:18:37

You know the saying that if you move YOU go with you.

So sort out what the issue is here and then move when it's clear that its a desirable thing to do

smokeandfluffcat Wed 28-Jan-15 15:19:43

I asked if anyone had ever done it.

LaurieFairyCake Wed 28-Jan-15 15:20:28

Sure, lots of people run away.

What's bothering you? smile

smokeandfluffcat Wed 28-Jan-15 15:21:47

Nothing particularly laurie. I just feel I'm due a fresh start.

When I say move away I don't just mean move house but effectively start my life over again. Cut off all past contacts and so on

LaurieFairyCake Wed 28-Jan-15 15:23:16

So you've got some twats in your life grin?

Cut em out. Have a good look at what you did to encourage/allow this to happen.

Check that you definitely don't like the place you're in now. Then moooove.
Pick somewhere nice.

SomewhereIBelong Wed 28-Jan-15 15:23:34

I have... was fed up of a small Scottish island upbringing, moved to the SW - almost as far as I could I guess. Found work, got married had a family.

Living the life I want to live. I am what my friends call "smugly content", always smiling.

smokeandfluffcat Wed 28-Jan-15 15:25:48

I haven't got any twats in my life. What are you talking about? Where did I say I knew any twats?

LaurieFairyCake Wed 28-Jan-15 15:27:31

You said 'cut off all past contacts' confused

Surely if they were life affirming and wonderful friends and family you'd keep them?

SurlyCue Wed 28-Jan-15 15:28:30

I got very close once but the prospect of not being close to those i did love was too painful for me. And i was running away from a problem i thought would never changed. Im so glad i stayed and worked it out. At least now if i ever decide to go elsewhere i havent burnt any bridges and can always come back to my loved ones.

smokeandfluffcat Wed 28-Jan-15 15:28:54

I haven't got any. I just mean obviously you know people even if you aren't close. Doesn't make them a twat or that I'm doing something wrong does it? What's your problem?

smokeandfluffcat Wed 28-Jan-15 15:29:10

I'm a bit like that too surly

SurlyCue Wed 28-Jan-15 15:29:51

I think you need to give some more info if you want specific advice OP.

LaurieFairyCake Wed 28-Jan-15 15:30:06

Ok, so you have no friends or family? Just acquaintances you're happy to lose ?

Sounds ideal to move then. Good luck.

SurlyCue Wed 28-Jan-15 15:31:00

Ok what is it you want away from? If you had a magic wand what would you change?

smokeandfluffcat Wed 28-Jan-15 15:31:43

I don't want specific advice, I wondered if anyone had done it and how they found it.

I feel being here feels dangerous somehow and I hate it, it's oppressive and disturbs me but I'm scared to go.

dejarderoncar Wed 28-Jan-15 15:32:20

I packed up my stuff aand my animals and moved to another country, knowing nobody, nor the language. Ten years on I have never been happier and wish I had moved forty years ago.

smokeandfluffcat Wed 28-Jan-15 15:33:06

Wow that's amazing! Did you have a job there?

LaurieFairyCake Wed 28-Jan-15 15:33:18

Have you always felt that the place you live feels dangerous to you? Or is it a recent thing?

What makes you scared to leave?

SurlyCue Wed 28-Jan-15 15:36:14

Are you in a big city or somethig? What makes it feel dangerous?

dejarderoncar Wed 28-Jan-15 15:37:14

Being on the street in many parts of the UK stressed me out, the aggression, drunkeness, the threat of violence often in the air. In both city centres and small market towns. I think the British charácter is aggressive compared to many other nationalities.

SurlyCue Wed 28-Jan-15 15:37:36

Fwiw- if you have no DCs i would say try it. (I have and had DCs who would be affected by moving away from family)

Or travel at the very least.

JinglyJanglyMe Wed 28-Jan-15 15:37:45

Hey smokeandfluffcat I am not much use to you yet. I am in the process of doing it. I've been thinking about it for, well forever really. I just want to go and start again.

smokeandfluffcat Wed 28-Jan-15 15:37:58

You can feel threatened with no immediate threat, not something I can explain.

smokeandfluffcat Wed 28-Jan-15 15:38:34

Me too jingly; to change my name, start over, in a sense become someone else.

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