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AIBU?

To say something to my neighbour about the smell of weed?

27 replies

Stinkylinky · 26/01/2015 16:25

I'm currently pregnant with my first DC and have been sorting out the spare room in time for DCs arrival and all I can smell when I'm in there is weed from next door! I thought it might be my over sensitive sense of smell but DP mentioned it too.

We know they smoke weed and it doesn't bother us, they are pretty good as far as neighbours go, quiet, friendly etc but I don't want my baby in a room that stinks of weed.

AIBU by mentioning this to them and asking them to perhaps avoid smoking it in the room that joins on to the nursery? It is their house after all and they can do what they please!

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MephistophelesApprentice · 26/01/2015 16:33

You sound exceptionally polite and tolerant. I'd say (or write) precisely what you have done here, and raise it again politely after a week or so if things don't change or return to normal.

After that they're being d*cks and nobody could call you a narc for contacting the authorities.

SaucyJack · 26/01/2015 16:35

There's no harm in asking nicely is there? If they say no, they say no.

You could always bake some brownies and take them round to sweeten the deal.

SugarOnTop · 26/01/2015 16:36

yabu to tell them what to do in their own home......if it bothers you then why don't you swap your own bedroom?

and unless you have cardboard for walls there is no way the smell seeps through the walls....it'll be coming in from outside

i've lived with enough weed smoking neighbours - and currently live next door to one - to know

maras2 · 26/01/2015 16:44

Ask them round to have a smell of your potential nursery.Then ask them to stop being so antisocial.(I really hate stoners)

MephistophelesApprentice · 26/01/2015 16:45

I think it's reasonable to ask for some consideration, and they are breaking the (unjust and unenforceable, but still written) law. The OP is already showing a good deal of respect and courtesy by allowing them to do so and they should respect that and behave courteously in turn. I say this as a (hypothetically illegal) smoker.

YANAgurl1973 · 26/01/2015 16:50

Why should she have to swap bedrooms?

Stinkylinky · 26/01/2015 17:24

We can't just swap rooms as our bedroom furniture wouldn't fit in the spare room and would be a massive expense to replace it all for something else that would fit. I don't see why would should work our living arrangements around next doors weed smoking?

It's not just a slight whiff, it's overpowering and it's 100% not coming from outside

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MissHobart · 26/01/2015 18:40

If it's really strong and not from outside I think it's more likely they're growing it rather than just smoking it, very different smell that tends to permeate. If it's a grow they're unlikely to dismantle it for you. I'd advise a call to your neighborhood policing team to send someone round for sniff, they could say the helicopter has been over and seen a hot spot!

WorraLiberty · 26/01/2015 18:43

You could always bake some brownies and take them round to sweeten the deal

Or space cakes

Crinkle77 · 26/01/2015 18:44

If it's overpowering I suspect they may be growing it in there.

WorraLiberty · 26/01/2015 18:48

I'd advise a call to your neighborhood policing team to send someone round for sniff, they could say the helicopter has been over and seen a hot spot!

They still can't enter the property without a warrant.

SaucyJack · 26/01/2015 20:45

I don't think they need the OP giving them any more by the smell of it Worra!

canweseethebunnies · 26/01/2015 21:02

I agree, if you can smell it through the walls, they must be growing it. You could shop them to the police. They might end up in prison, though, so think about whether you want that on your conscience! You could just tell them you can smell. It might make them edgy enough to stop.

Stinkylinky · 26/01/2015 21:18

I wouldn't want to land them in any trouble, they are nice people. DP is going to have a word, he speaks to them more than I do.

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Tryharder · 26/01/2015 21:29

If they're running a weed farm from their bedroom, they're not 'nice people'.

People over the age of about 20 and who are not students who smoke weed irritate the fuck out of me.

Get a life.

RandomNPC · 26/01/2015 21:48

^^ what Tryharder said. Fucking stoners.

hoobypickypicky · 26/01/2015 22:06

Tryharder. Indeed. Nice people don't grow weed. Nice people report illegal weed growing to the police.

mickeyfartpants · 26/01/2015 22:11

Yeah, totally rearrange your whole upstairs to accommodate illegal activity in your neighbours house...

We had this. It was coming in even when the windows were closed and through my curtains. I phoned the non emergency police line because they weren't nice neighbours anyway and it stopped :) I advise the same, esp as its coming in to your little ones room.

LurkingHusband · 26/01/2015 22:14

Carbon filter

GotTheKey · 26/01/2015 22:16

You're not being unreasonable. You should be able to live in your house and not have to smell drugs. I think people forget that it is an illegal substance and therefore regardless of whether they're doing it in their own home or not, it shouldn't be done. It's so normalised that it infuriates me.

Do they own or rent their house? You could contact the landlord if it's rented as I'm sure s/he won't want their house stinking of it.

I hope you get it sorted. I had a similar problem and it's a nightmare. I would certainly address it before baby arrives due to the risks smoking poses to them x

TheRavenChides · 26/01/2015 22:20

I assume the holier-than-thou people saying they hate stoners don't drink (or smoke cigarettes, or have any other vices to speak of in their whiter than white lives)

I'd rather spend an evening with stoners than drinkers any day.

Have a word OP, I'm confident they'll understand, and even if they're not happy about it they'll surely appreciate you taking that tack rather than sending police around and be willing to accommodate your request

Agrestic · 26/01/2015 22:24

Yanbu to ask them. Knock on the door and ask if they would mind not smoking (don't say weed) in that room as it's drifting through to the nursery. They'll probably be very embarrassed they've been rumbled and be very apologetic!

If they are nice people they will stop. :)

If they carry on they are twats

hoobypickypicky · 26/01/2015 22:25

I love MN. You dislike and disagree with an illegal activity and all of a sudden you're "holier than thou".

If you like stoners so much perhaps you'd like to move into the OP's nursery instead of her baby having to suffer it, TheRavenChides.

sliceofsoup · 26/01/2015 22:25

YANBU.

There is a definite whiff of weed in our estate lately. When the wind blows a certain way we can smell it out the front. But I don't think its in our row.

If it was next door I would be shopping them and I don't mind admitting it. If the smell is that strong they are probably growing it.

TheRavenChides · 26/01/2015 22:35

Absolutely not hooby, I would have a word with the neighbours and fully expect them to understand my concerns and alter their behaviour.

There is a difference between disapproving of an activity and condemning whole swathes of society because they occasionally indulge in it. OP says her neighbours are nice and she has no other problem with them. Who are we to question her judgement? An occasional spiff does not automatically make you a bad person.

Now if they refuse her reasonable request that's another matter...

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