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To think my iPad is a personal possession

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Claybury Sun 25-Jan-15 17:09:42

....like a phone ? I have some friends who come to stay and ask to use my iPad or if it's lying around simply help themselves. I don't know why but this annoys me, like my phone I consider it to be 'mine' and not a household object for general use like a kettle for instance.
I think they should bring their own devices if they want to surf when staying with me.
AIBU

ApocalypseThen Sun 25-Jan-15 17:10:50

No, not at all. Just like your phone it could have any personal stuff on it.

BetterTogether75 Sun 25-Jan-15 17:11:12

I don't have an ipad, can I borrow yours? grin

StickyProblem Sun 25-Jan-15 17:11:23

YANBU! It's like grabbing someone's phone. Mine has Facebook, Twitter, email all with my ID in - it's hugely personal. Tell them to use their phone.

fredfredgeorgejnr Sun 25-Jan-15 17:16:19

Well, yes an iPad is a personal device.

But you should still be able to provide them with a device to do any internet things they might need...

so YANBU on your subject, but find some way to give them guest access!

pillowaddict Sun 25-Jan-15 17:23:13

YANBU I also hate this as I'm linked into my email and social networking on mine. Back in the day when a family pc was the only means of accessing the Internet it was rare for a guest to ask for use during a visit so why should it be op's responsibility now fred? If they are so keen to regularly update sites or check emails etc they should provide their own mobile device!

BrianButterfield Sun 25-Jan-15 17:25:03

It's not a host!s reponsibility to give them something to use to go online! Bring your own tablet/smartphone/laptop - the host can supply a wifi password and that's all that's needed.

PesoPenguin Sun 25-Jan-15 17:26:11

I think they are tbh, there's 3 of us in our family and we all have our own...

shock at providing a device to use the Internet being a requirement of having guests hmm

Nolim Sun 25-Jan-15 17:26:15

Yanbu. Lock it.

Alibabsandthe40Musketeers Sun 25-Jan-15 17:27:28

Mine has a lock on it, no-one touches it but me.

Claybury Sun 25-Jan-15 17:28:06

I'm happy for guests to use the computer ( If they ask nicely ... ) but I hate the presumptuousness of just picking up an iPad and asking for the passcode.

fredfredgeorgejnr Sun 25-Jan-15 17:28:08

pillowaddict For the same reason you provide towels, it's part of the things you have at home that a host you're staying with should make some effort to provide.

And certainly when people visited me when there weren't mobile device options I was certainly asked!

Tyzer85 Sun 25-Jan-15 17:29:52

If anyone touches my phone or tablet without asking I ask them what the fuck they are doing.

I don't provide a device for my guests, never have done and never will.

piggychops Sun 25-Jan-15 17:30:08

Hide it!

MariosYoshi Sun 25-Jan-15 17:31:06

Of course it's a personal possession, how rude of them to expect to use it/take it upon themselves to use it.
My texts and emails go through to my iPad, not to mention it has my card details stored for app purchases, is left logged into my social networking pages, has passwords saved for my university access and has my uni work saved on it too and that's not even mentioning my photographs on it which are nothing special to anyone else or of an unsavoury nature but they are my private personal snaps.
I don't mind people popping into my laptop to check their accounts or whatever but not my iPad or phone.

maninawomansworld Sun 25-Jan-15 17:32:32

No YANBU.
Make sure it's locked and if you have a particular friend / family member who always goes for it then just make sure it's out of sight when they visit.
If they ask for it just say no sorry not sure where it is / it's charging / DH has got it with him or whatever. If you're feeling assertive then you could try 'no, it's mine, get your own'.

Claybury Sun 25-Jan-15 17:35:37

I do hide it now ! But she s a v good friend and is likely to say ' I need to check something, where's your iPad ?' and I'm too nice to say I'd rather not let you use it '.
When I say 'oh it's upstairs somewhere' she doesn't get the hint.
I know the mumsnet reply will be just say what you want it's your house but it's hard ! And I feel petty.

chanie44 Sun 25-Jan-15 17:40:52

Somebody I know moved into a flat share and the flatmate thought nothing of going into her room and borrowing her laptop. Flat mates brother came to stay and would look up gay porn on her laptop.

backwardpossom Sun 25-Jan-15 17:47:51

I wouldn't have any qualms about letting a very good friend use my iPad. Different if it was someone I wasn't so close to.

PuppyMonkey Sun 25-Jan-15 17:49:23

Your friends and fredfred are very odd. grin

ChippingInLatteLover Sun 25-Jan-15 17:51:37

Start going through her bag looking for a nail file grin

ChocolateCherry Sun 25-Jan-15 17:54:10

No way does anyone touch my iPad. Mind you I don't leave it lying about either cos if I did they might hmm

dalekanium Sun 25-Jan-15 17:58:05

I usually say 'no chance, it is full of naked photos of DH'

Puts em right off.

cozietoesie Sun 25-Jan-15 18:37:36

I have a (carefully cultivated) reputation as a Luddite - very few of my family and friends even realize that we have wifi - and those that do would also have heard me ranting on about the previous provider and my then blacklisted internet address. (Someone else's usage, not mine.)

They can take a hike. Anyone comes here and asks to use one of our personal devices - or the wifi - they're told 'No - no-one else is allowed to use them'.

WhereYouLeftIt Sun 25-Jan-15 20:36:09

"she s a v good friend and is likely to say ' I need to check something, where's your iPad ?'"
If you don't want to say an outright 'no', have you thought about innocently enquiring if there's any reason she doesn't want something turing up on her search history on her own ipad/laptop? wink

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