Today 20:32 Gangie
Il try to keep it short and factual!
Getting married in a few weeks. Been with h2b nearly 7 yrs & have children together. He is from a dif family dynamic & finds my family (v close & involved) a bit tricky. Can be short with my dad (so can I he is an alcoholic & was abusive to us as children) gets on great with my mum, tolerates One of my sisters, likes the others.
This sister and I have always had a difficult relationship although it has improved on the surface can be fine but I find her hard work. Very judgemental about everyone but particularly me & any choices I make, her opinions on everything wear me down - I prefer to let people live how they like and
try not to judge.
Anyway what I am trying to say is I have a difficult time dealing with her & so does my h2b. He's just less patient with her & pulls her up if she says something out of line.
Recently had my hen night and my sis decides to start questioning my relationship with oh asking why he can't be nicer, why is so grumpy (he can be grumpy and is def more when we are in her company) basically totally pulling him apart. I told her that he obviously has very many qualities I admire and that I don't own him and can't dictate to him how he should behave. Basically I was pretty upset they she took the opportunity of my hen (which was fantastic in very other way btw!) to pick holes in my relationship/oh. Al together not very surprising.
Anyway found out yesterday that she had been quizzing my mum asking if she thinks I'm really happy with him and if he is forcing me to get married (!!!) and that he's controlling me! This couldn't be further from the truth, we have a very good relationship, ups and downs like all couples under stress from work issues/pregnancy/moving house ect. He has always been my rock when I needed him, when my dad was bad on the drink, when I had postnatal depression or having difficulties in my pregnancies.
I am so angry about this! Haven't told oh any of this as he would hit the roof and I don't want to make their 'relationship' any worse. She is still my sister and we have to be in each other's lives as we are otherwise a close family. Originally I had asked her to do a reading at the wedding and my other sister is doin one too. This was to involve them as I had only asked one other sister to be bridesmaid and my best friend. I have the opportunity to speak to this sister tomor & be be honest I feel like telling her 1. It was completely inappropriate and bitchy to bring shit like that up on my hen and 2. Tell her that as she so obviously has issues with my oh & has expressed her feelings about the wedding that she isn't genuinely happy for us I would now rather that she didn't do the reading after all & I can ask my v good friend instead.
So should I?? My other family members will be like omg don't make a big deal out if it/ just ignore her ect but really I don't want someone who's bitching about me, my partner and our wedding to have a special part ij the ceremony!! So advise me please!
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Gangie · 24/01/2015 20:51
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