Out today with our 2 DDS. Dd2 (5) needs a wee, so I suggest dp takes her and dd1 and I pop into a clothes shop. Off they go. Dd1 and I spend 5 mins in shop and the go to meet dp and dd2 at the loos. Dp is standing outside, he's let dd2 (5) go into the ladies herself. I go in and find her in a cubicle with the for open not able to flush the toilet.
Dp days she wouldn't do to the men's with him. There was an empty family cubicle. Wibu to be pissed off with him???
He thought she'd be fine. He doesn't think he did anything wrong. There was a queue ffs! Dd2 doesn't do queues! I got a few weird looks when I cut the queue to get to her. I feel that he doesn't understand why I was cross.
Big deal was that she had a wee in full view of a queue of other folk and was getting upset that she couldn't flush the toilet. Big deal was that he wasn't actually parenting his own child at that point, he was just taking the easy option, not thinking and calmly waiting outside.
Yes, and on this occasion I think he misjudged it. We do let her go to the toilet by herself, but generally in a restaurant or somewhere where she's straight in and out, or where she's with her sister. She's not quite ready to cope with a big shopping centre toilets.
I have to say as the mother of three girls it wouldn't occur to me for a second to not be the one to take them to the loo in public when it's so much easier for me to go into the same sex toilet with them.
I just want him to say "fair enough, she didn't copr very well this time". I'm not " carrying-on," at all. He doesn't know I'm still annoyed. I know it's not the parenting crime of the century, that's e why I wonder whether or no iwbu.