I should start by saying we do not want to be in conflict with our neighbours, we have no wish to upset them and would rather an amicable relationship (as we do with all our other neighbours!) but I am beyond wits end now. Over the past year we have had complaints about the noises our children make - including running around the house, laughing and coughing (all in day time), we have had complaints if we try to do any DIY (though we always notify them first and check time it to their liking), we have complaints if we have people round for dinner (though it still not raucous), we have had complaints that our door bell is too loud, our washing machine is on after 7 and our telephone ring is too loud. The thing is we live in an old style, brick built, Victorian type house. Though if you are sitting in silence, you can hear next door faintly, it isn't obvious. When I have gone round to talk to them they have tried to get me to listen to the noise, my children were playing in our house and yes if I stood with ear next to wall, in absolute silence I could hear them very faintly playing -but that was it! Our children go to bed at 7pm, we don't listen to loud music and tend to watch tv quietly - whenever they have been in trouble or needed something i.e. their drive clearing of snow etc we've helped them happily (they are an elderly couple) - but I am getting fed up and don't know how to handle it.
Today they complained to me about vacuuming at 8.30am yesterday (friday). My son had spilt some sugar and I spent about 6 seconds clearing it up. I ended up getting a little cross and firmly (not rudely) told them that they seemed to find fault in so much that we did that I had to just give up and live our lives as we see fit. I would not be impolite to them or disrespectful of them but we would not tolerate any further complaints from them. We are aware that our family is probably loud to compared to their lives, and we are sorry for that but unfortunately that is just what comes from having young children and we should leave it at that. I did not swear, shout or raise my voice. I have just had a text telling me they are going to report us for Anti social behaviour and noise pollution - I am livid. I have no doubt it will result in nothing but it has made me really cross - is there any reasonable way of dealing with this to repair an amicable relationship? I hate having tension between people, but feel we've been so passive they are taking the mick....
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Neighbours and noise - constant complaints from them - got worse - please help
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BendingBentBroke · 24/01/2015 20:26
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