Realise this is all so petty and storm-in-a-teacup, but I really feel the need for an outside perspective on an argument between partner and me:
I'd seen an advert for a TV show(show 2), and wanted to watch it, but realise it is on at the same time as another tv show(show 1) that I usually watch with my partner, so I say 'nevermind we'll just watch show 1'. He points out show 2 is on a channel with a +1 version, and show 1 is one hour, so we can watch show 1, then show 2 on the +1 channel. I agree.
When it comes time to watch it, he says sadly he has to work (at home on laptop) instead, and says that he can watch show 1 at some point later on its internet catch-up service. He also suggests I just watch show 2 'because you want to watch it more'.
I don't want to watch it more, and I think that as he is working anyway, it doesn't matter so I start watching show 1 (intending to watch then show 2 after as planned.)
About 5 minutes in, he flips out at me, yelling and shouting, and then storms out. I'm utterly confused and shocked. Apparently what he wanted to happen was me to watch show 2 on the normal channel, and for us both to watch show 1 on catch up straight afterwards (I didn't realise this at all). As he has previously asked me to give him space when he gets angry, I do so, and watch the tv shows.
Later I apologise to him for not understanding what he wanted. He doesn't accept it, saying I am selfish for not thinking about him and realising what he wanted. I say that's not fair, as he could have just told me what he wanted (and I would have done it). He says he shouldn't have to say it, because I should have thought about him and worked it out.
He has apologised for not explaining clearly, but refuses to apologise for shouting at me, and says I need to accept I am to blame and that I have behaved horribly, in choosing to 'screw him over' by watching show 1 when he couldn't, and in continuing to watch tv after he yelled. (He thinks I should have switched to doing what he wanted then, but I would have missed the beginning of the show 2 by then, and frankly didn't think it would help anything by then as he had already stormed out).
AIBU to feel I haven't really done anything wrong? He can still watch show 1 on catchup up as planned, so he hasn't missed out on anything. I'm sorry I misunderstood what he wanted, but it wasn't intentional or malicious. He says I've 'put tv in front our our relationship'.
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cantfindnicknotinuse · 23/01/2015 15:18
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