To think that most people don't like having sex with overhead lights on?

[ElectraInExcelsis]

I quite like my body and it's in reasonably good shape. But I would never want to have the overhead lights on while having sex. I prefer soft lighting for obvious reasons.

Am I alone here? Or am I desperately insecure?

[Alisvolatpropiis]

I have never given the lighting of the room I'm having sex in any thought whatsoever.

[ElectraInExcelsis]

Maybe I'm odd!

[PollyIndia]

Lighting also doesn't bother me one iota either.

[Nextwednesday]

Definitely agree. Too operating theatre and not flattering.

[farewellfigure]

YANBU. I like all the lights off with maybe a glow from the landing. Bedside light on at the most. But then I am NOT in good shape and wouldn't want to put DH off for life!

[ElectraInExcelsis]

I also feel that when I'm having sex I kind of go into myself a bit and I can't concentrate with lights full on or if my partner is taking too much.

Mind you, I was the same when I was in labour - wanted lights off and no talking. Maybe there's a connection?

[invisiblecrown]

Lighting doesn't bother me in the slightest. In fact, if anything, I like the full light. I like to see everything :)

[SacredHeart]

Doesn't bother me - when it's on, it's on.

[Fleetfoxes]

Yes, for some reason it's so much harder to fake an orgasm when the lights are on . . .

[BreconBeBuggered]

I'm not a fan, but it's nothing to do with insecurity. It's more that if you're in the missionary position, the glare from the bulb gets in your eyes. Daylight is fine.

[invisiblecrown]

Why are you faking orgasms?

[dementedpixie]

We rarely have overhead lights on at all (except in the kitchen) so it would be really weird for them to be on during sex.

[Tyzer85]

We have bedside lamps on and we don't hide under the covers either, never have done.

[Fleetfoxes]

heavy workload, stress, anxiety, depression etc

[TRexingInAsda]

Meh, I've never thought about it. I wouldn't turn them off if they were on, or the other way around. It's nice to see what's going on I suppose - or if you don't want to you can close your eyes whether the lights are on or not.

[BitOutOfPractice]

I can't stand the big light on at all. For any activity. Let alone sex. It makes me tense to have the big light on. Hate it.

[JustSpeakSense]

Fleetfoxes!

[creambun2014]

We always have the big light on. We have no lamp in there and I don't want sex in the dark.

[PixieofCatan]

YANBU, I don't like bright lights on if we're having sex in our room. The lights are too bright. But then I have stupid LEDs in the ceiling -_-

[ElectraInExcelsis]

I've never liked full glare on even when I was 18.

[googoodolly]

It's never bothered me. If it's on, I'm not about to stop proceedings to get up and turn it off. Likewise I wouldn't get up and turn it on either!

[windchime]

I take it whenever I can get it these days. Lights on/daylight whatever. It comes with the territory of shift work

[JohnFarleysRuskin]

Morning light or lamp light is surely preferable.

[Fatalatomo]

Well I don't like the big light on but then I don't really like the big light on at any time apart from sometimes when I'm eating.

I don't mind the lamp on but I prefer to just have the TV on mute in the background. I find it really hard to orgasm if I can't concentrate and the lights sort of keep me in the room rather than let me get into what I'm feeling if that makes sense?

[FluffyMcnuffy]

Doesn't bother me at all. DW prefers it with the light on so she can see me in all my glory .