I have always been told that I'm 'over sensitive'. If something has upset me, DM tends to laugh and say I need to toughen up and stop being so sensitive. I know I'm fairly emotional but don't know whether it's too much or I'm just normal.
For some background here, DM and DB made fun of me in a certain way for years and years (even when I moved out it didn't stop). Last year I realised how much the teasing upset me, and that it was not okay and I told them enough was enough. Of course I got laughed at and told to stop being over sensitive. In the heat of the moment I snapped back 'If you need to tell me I'm over sensitive, then you're being over offensive. Calling someone over sensitive is how bullies justify their behaviour to themselves.' This was met with silence and I just went home. Although I never got an apology this seemed to work and they haven't done it since.
Yesterday, DM made a comment about how much I was eating at my birthday meal. I am 22wks pregnant and I have always struggled with my weight, so having to gain weight is quite emotionally straining for me, although logically I know that I am supposed to gain weight with pregnancy. I just got up and went to the loo, and had myself a little cry. I did not tell her that she'd upset me, I knew it wasn't meant offensively, but I could not help but feel upset. I had no plans to tell her I was upset by the comment, I just needed to have my little cry and be done with it. She followed me to the loo, obviously having noticed that I was upset, and started shouting over the cubicle to stop being so ridiculous and over sensitive. I told her that shouting at me was not helping. She then kept saying to me all day 'are you in a mood with me' which was annoying. Now she's off with me and I think she's expecting me to apologise for getting upset.
I feel that if she'd followed me and just said 'Sorry spiderwoman I didn't mean to upset you' then it would have been ok, even if she'd not followed me and shouted at all this would have been fine. But she seems to think I'm in the wrong because I am too sensitive and get upset too easily.
AIBU to think I was not in the wrong? AIBU to think calling someone 'over sensitive' is justifying being 'over offensive'? Am I just over sensitive?
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sbear22 · 23/01/2015 10:59
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