My son is 2.5 and attends an early intervention programme for suspected autism. 2 half days a week he also goes to a kindergarten that were kind enough to take him on.
Last week I picked up my son in the playground and as I approached the teacher from behind, she was talking about my sons language delay to another parent, actually making the argument to her that lots of have language delays. They stopped abruptly when they realized I was there. It was very obvious they were talking about my son. I was furious but left saying nothing whilst I thought about it.
I decided to say something to the Director this morning and the teacher in question took me aside at pick up saying that she would never talk about a child to others. She's been doing childcare for 25 years and is a professional etc etc. She said she didn't remember what she was talking about but maybe replied to the parent who 'might' have asked why my son didn't talk. In short, a complete denial and told me I had misunderstood. In short, bollocks.
The Director came in smiling saying all sorted? And I shrugged and stropped out. Immature I know, but I was so angry.
Im also really SICK to death that after an initial fuss that they couldn't handle him, they've now decided in their not very professional opinion that there is nothing wrong with him. They're making me feel like a terrible mother for putting him through the autism programme. He has had at least 10 assessments so far and has a place that is funded to the tune of 80k a year plus our own contributions. If the professionals didn't think he should be there, Im pretty sure he certainly wouldn't be. It makes me have to justify to them by talking about the negative sides of my son which I hate. They are meeting him after months of help from occupational and speech therapists. They have no idea of the struggles we've gone through. And don't care to know about them. Always insisting there's nothing wrong. Im so glad its now going well there but they're making me feel like some crazy mother!!!
Rant over. Breathe!
Im guessing some damage in the relationship might be irreparable at this point, would you just pull out and send him somewhere else. Another mum at the autism centre says her daughters creche (down the road) has been amazing and supportive. I can live with them for the sake of my son who is happy there, but would you just start fresh somewhere else?
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Figamol · 22/01/2015 11:30
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