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Please help urgent advice needed re wedding bar!!

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Weathergames Tue 20-Jan-15 21:21:57

Oh wise ones I need your advice pretty please!!!

My friend getting married in a private house and has bought a load of booze and was going to have an honesty bar.

10 days before the event the venue has told her she is not allowed an honesty bar as she needs an events licence which she has no time to do now.

I said have a collection and get the best man to diplomatically/amusingly incorporate it into his speech?

Any suggestions?


YoniMitchell Tue 20-Jan-15 21:24:08

Can they sell raffle tickets to win other goodies and cover the cost of the booze?

My understanding is they're ok f they don't 'sell' the booze, right?

Weathergames Tue 20-Jan-15 21:24:52

I think so yes ....

expatinscotland Tue 20-Jan-15 21:25:15


Won't a collection be the same thing, though?

Mammanat222 Tue 20-Jan-15 21:25:16

Sorry I have no idea what an honesty bar is? Or what the 'new' option is?

Weathergames Tue 20-Jan-15 21:27:18

Honesty bar where they have already bought all the booze but have a jar or whatever for people to leave money to pay for their drinks.

UnexpectedItemInShaggingArea Tue 20-Jan-15 21:28:03

We had exactly the same issue and just did it anyway, just very subtly.

BertieBotts Tue 20-Jan-15 21:28:04

Does it really take that long to get an events licence? I would look into it, it's not very complicated I don't think.

Honesty bar is when you provide alcohol and friends pay for what they drink.

Could they just get people to pay later? I suppose people might forget what they've had, though.

YoniMitchell Tue 20-Jan-15 21:28:46

Would people really leave enough to cover what they drink? Would the B&G be prepared to write off the cost of the drink of necessary?

CMOTDibbler Tue 20-Jan-15 21:29:03

This is one of the very few occasions that I would think a 'wishing well' might be a good idea. On the end of the bar would be a good place to put it perhaps wink, and just get the ushers to make everyone aware of the situation discretely

YoniMitchell Tue 20-Jan-15 21:29:52

Send a poem to guests before the wedding? <ducks>

mrsminiverscharlady Tue 20-Jan-15 21:29:52

That's odd, because I once left it waaay too late to get a licence for a preschool event. When I spoke to the licencing people at the council they said voluntary donations were fine but we as long as we didn't have set prices and left it entirely up to people how much to put in.

ThinkIveBeenHacked Tue 20-Jan-15 21:30:46

Now she has bought the booze, id go for an event license. Or has anyone attending the event got a liquor license? That may be enough, that they are on the premises.

If she hadnt bought the booze already id have said just do a "bring your own booze" thing.

mrsminiverscharlady Tue 20-Jan-15 21:31:07

Should add that we made far much more money on the bar than we did when we charged set prices!

LynetteScavo Tue 20-Jan-15 21:32:06

Who will be "policing" the venue?

Surely a "donations" box near the bar wouldn't be the same a selling it.

And I think your friend must know some really lovely people. I wouldn't trust my friends with an honesty bar. grin

MrsTawdry Tue 20-Jan-15 21:34:12

CMOT yes...I agree a wishing well would work brilliantly. Especially if it were nice and tacky with an amusing rhyme about drinking the leprechauns beer and please can you stick some money down there for him.

LynetteScavo Tue 20-Jan-15 21:34:27

I thought the event licence needed to be organised at least 10 days before the if they're getting married on the 30th, is tomorrow too late?

Shockers Tue 20-Jan-15 21:34:29

We did this and just had a donations jar.

The money in it covered the cost of the (really quite good) wine and beer, but with no profit... which suited us, as making a profit wouldn't have felt right.

LynetteScavo Tue 20-Jan-15 21:35:18

Or are they getting married on the Friday? (my counting isn't very good hmm)

Weathergames Tue 20-Jan-15 21:35:58

Yes they don't want to make a profit.

Weathergames Tue 20-Jan-15 21:36:16

31st grin

TwiggyHeart Tue 20-Jan-15 21:37:06

Give a bottle to each person as a wedding favour...

BertieBotts Tue 20-Jan-15 21:37:39

Could they hand out the booze in advance and have everyone "bring their own" grin

Moobaloo Tue 20-Jan-15 21:37:42

Phone council licensing dept and beg for a late Temporary event notice. Info here

Could be do able. If not then a donations box.

Is the venue licensed? If so having someone with a personal licence to sell it should be fine without a TEN.

Definitely speak to council. They can be very helpful x

LynetteScavo Tue 20-Jan-15 21:43:11

So, I think tomorrow is the last day for them to get it...I don't think they have to go themselves. When I was on the school PTA any of us used to go to the town hall to get one, I think. I never offered

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