So a person starts a thread as they have a problem or need some help. Eg I am not sure how I will cope following my csection as I have a toddler. You will always get a person saying I had to cope on my own with 3 under 2's from day 3 onwards. Or someone struggling to look after dc when ill. I coped with double pneumonia. Or someone searching for help with childcare. I did xy and z with 3 under 2 etc. Find these posts really unhelpful. Aibu
Well no but they CAN be useful as they put things into perspective and show the OP that they're not alone in having to deal with things and that it CAN be done.
By the way I DID have to be alone with a toddler, a c section and new baby from day three! I lay on the sofa while the toddler destroyed the house for 4 days and then I got up and limped down the road with my pram.
It depends on whether the poster says how they coped with the same problem. Having a c section and a toddler or having to cope with young kids when ill are fairly common scerarios though so it's not surprising many posters have been in the same boat. If you just want someone to say "there there poor you" you phone a close friend or relative, not post on mumsnet.
It's nice to not feel alone when experiencing trying circumstances. I'd rather someone gave their personal experience and solutions to the "maybe you need counselling/ ltb" stand by of MNetters with nothing to really add to a discussion. Obviously sometimes LTB / seek counselling IS good advice. But, it is more useful when someone says "I found counselling very useful when this happened to me". If a poster wanted generic "haven't got a clue really but here's a bunch of flowers" response, they'd probably ask someone in RL.
LOL I was alone with a three day old and a 5 year old as Dh had to work, with no help, so not quite a toddler. But from that I can give a list of what not to do as I mad all kinds of mistakes and if I had a do over I'd not do them. Sometimes it's good to know you aren't alone, it's happened to others and get practical advice on what worked or didn't in my case