I suspect that IABU but I'll let the MN jury decide.
Background: I'm expecting DC5. For previous births the most pain relief I've had has been G&A plus the pool. For easy reference:
DD1, born at 34+6, 4 hour labour, 6lb 3oz (officially large for gestational age) had a minor PPH and placenta took an hour to deliver despite syntometrin injection.
DD2, born at 39+2, 2 hour labour, 7lb 9oz, all straightforward.
DS, born at 37 weeks exactly, 1 hour 15 min labour, 7lbs 8oz (just below cut-off for LGA size), all straightforward.
DD3, born at 38+6, 25 min labour - started at hospital as went in for reduced movements, 9lbs 13oz (definitely LGA!), gave birth on all fours in pool but had a shoulder dystocia
So I'm being good and having a GTT on Wednesday when I'll be 26 weeks pregnant. Then next Thursday I start having growth scans and will see the consultant to discuss birth options. So far I've seen a few registrars who all have differing opinions about the birth. One suggested induction at 38 weeks as I have a history of LGA babies and quick births. Another has suggested admitting me at 37 weeks to the maternity ward until I give birth (it's hideous there so no thanks) to ensure that I give birth in hospital. The other suggestion is to have a home birth if the baby seems to be of 'average size' to avoid giving birth during the 20 minute drive in.
I don't want to give birth in that hospital. I've had enough of their inability to listen and treat me like a human being. They are currently in special measures with the CQC because of the number of preventable maternal and neonatal deaths that have occurred. I'm not surprised. The obstetric registrars are generally AWFUL. The midwives are mostly nice enough.
Add in to that the fact that I know that I won't want anyone to touch me/talk to me/generally make their presence known if I'm going through another intense precipitous labour. That's not me being grumpy (DH thinks it is) it's simply that I know how much I will need to 'zone out' and concentrate on what my body is doing. I feel confident about my ability to birth if I'm allowed to move about/adopt positions that may look weird/make as much or as little noise as I want/whatever gets us through the birthing process without someone needing me to fulfil hospital policies.
I'd really like to build a birthing nest at home where I can get on with giving birth on my terms. DH wants the backup of being in hospital even if that means he doesn't get there on time.
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AIBU?
To consider booking a home birth even though DH isn't keen?
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NoRoomForALittleOne · 19/01/2015 10:50
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