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to feel a bit neglected?

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catlovingdoctor Wed 14-Jan-15 19:26:50

Basically my friend messaged me early on NYE to ask if I wanted to go out with her and our other friends; I'm closest to her really and it's a big group so didn't even know who else was going. So I was only speaking to her about it.

Anyway I replied saying count me reply...until literally an hour ago. 14 days later..! She casually says oh sorry I forgot to check my messages (we use facebook messages not texts) and that she went out with them all. Meanwhile I was at home all NYE thinking she was ignoring me. AIBU to feel bit neglected/ put out? She's fairly flaky when it comes to checking messages etc but normally very nice and we have a good friendship. Suggestions? TIA.

KingJoffreyObviouslyWatchesHol Wed 14-Jan-15 19:29:12

14 days?

She's a douche. Cut her loose.

Discopanda Wed 14-Jan-15 19:33:00

That's just rude and mean, she is not a proper friend, get rid.

LadyLuck10 Wed 14-Jan-15 20:00:01

Well if you picked up the phone when you didn't get a reply about the night out you would have gone out with your friends! Why did you just sit there assuming she's ignoring you confused

GokTwo Wed 14-Jan-15 20:03:49

It's a bit gutting I agree but do you actually think she did it on purpose? I have a friend who is very flaky like that.

pilates Wed 14-Jan-15 20:19:25

Sorry sounds like she didn't want you to join them otherwise she would have phoned you. Not a reliable friend IMO.

scottgirl Wed 14-Jan-15 20:24:56

Facebook messages will tell you at the bottom of your message when it was read.

Leeds2 Wed 14-Jan-15 20:31:35

I rarely look at phone texts, so very possibly wouldn't have picked up your reply, but if I had sent the invite out by text, I would've checked.

scottgirl Wed 14-Jan-15 20:36:39

The OP uses Facebook messages not texts. An unread message is visibly flagged up whenever the friend logged on to Facebook.

SwingingBalls Wed 14-Jan-15 20:39:32

Why didn't you chase her up when you didn't get a reply from her?

Aeroflotgirl Wed 14-Jan-15 20:40:26

Yabu you said she was flaky at checking messages, and what did you do, you sent her a message, and dident follow it up with a call or another text.

Mummy1106 Wed 14-Jan-15 20:43:36

She is definitely out of order and too flaky to care. I would feel heartbroken. These days people are glued to their phones not iPads or laptops. I don't buy her excuse.

Quitelikely Wed 14-Jan-15 20:55:26

Well why didn't you ask about meeting arrangements? She invited you out, then you say yes what time and place. No?

kittensinmydinner Thu 15-Jan-15 18:08:26

I may be really old-fashioned but if she's a good friend perhaps you could have called her on that communicating device know as a phone....

googoodolly Thu 15-Jan-15 18:11:30

I'd have rung if it was that important for me to go out. I don't think you can rely on Facebook to be reliable with this kind of thing.

Aeroflotgirl Thu 15-Jan-15 18:32:19

Exactly, op knew she was flaky with messages, some just ignore their Facebook messages, I don't, but some do. If I wanted to go out, and I haven't heard from her, I would have called her a day before to finalise arrangements.

Summerisle1 Thu 15-Jan-15 18:41:19

I'd have followed up the message with a text or a phone call.

Only quite a lot of my friends disabled the Facebook messenger service when it wanted to install itself as a separate app on mobile devices. As a result, we only get Facebook messages when actually on laptops or computers.

I realise this is no excuse for waiting 14 days but actually Facebook is an increasingly crap way to message someone.

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