DP and I have decided to get married. We've been together 10+ years, have a house and a 6 month old DS.
No proposal, just a conversation about it. I do have ring though but we've had that for years (long story and a whole other thread ).
The thing is, although I have kind of always wanted the big white wedding, we have no money (well we have savings but they are being used while I'm on mat leave, plus things need doing round the house).
Also, both our sets of parents are divorced and it is just not feasible to have them all in one place at the same time (affairs, other women etc).
So wibu to just have a registry office do, with bil and sil as witnesses and no party? And not tell anyone else until after the event? It seems like the easiest least stressful (and cheapest option, but I'm worried I'll regret never having the big do. Plus I know our parents will be upset they weren't there. But then if we waited til we could afford it (and somehow got over the parents issue) then it would never happen now we have baby and hope to have another. But we really want to be married.
Have any of you ever done this? Did you regret it? Are there any alternatives?
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Eminybob · 12/01/2015 20:50
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