I really don't know if I am being unreasonable about this at all and so would be very interested to know what mumsnetters think...
My DH is in the forces and we move as a family when he is posted, which tends to be every two years. It can be a bit shorter but equally can be longer if he gets two postings in a row in the same location. We have two DC, neither of whom are school age yet.
When I meet new people it often comes up in conversation, as people ask where we live (we live at a barracks), what primary school is dc going to go to (we don't know as we will move before then). What has started to really annoy me is that so frequently, on realising we are a forces family, people who I have only just met start giving me what feels like a lecture about how disruptive it must be for our children, how unsettling, how bad off their education etc etc. It just seems really rude to start judging our lifestyle like that. If they wanted to ask questions about it I would be more than happy to answer but they often just launch into a big rant before I can get a word in.
I have two friends whose families also move often because of work (corporate firms) but they say that they have never experienced this before. I feel like the 'concern for our children' from total strangers is reserved for military families, even though there are other professions which require frequent moves. Am I being unreasonably over sensitive or is it rude to criticise someone's lifestyle when you have only just met them?
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Squeezepast · 12/01/2015 20:20
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