Pleas go easy on me, first Aibu (long time poster but have nc'd as sil knows my nn)
Dh has just announced that he is going away for 3 days next month with his mates on a stag weekend. This weekend is going to cost £250.
I am currently on mat leave with a 7 month old and am 6 weeks PG with second dc. I have some anxiety issues and cannot cope with being home alone overnight. I had hg starting at 8-10 weeks in all previous pregnancies (2 mc before 12 weeks) and could hardly get out of bed some days. We also have two dogs which I struggle to walk when I am on my own with Ds as they are both quite strong and I cannot manage with both of them and the buggy.
A while ago dh mentioned that a friend had invited him on this expensive stag weekend but he wasn't keen on going as he wasn't that good friends with the stag (same social circle but only saw each other once or twice a year at social events). He also said that he didn't think we would be able to afford it as we are on a very tight budget and have had to sacrifice luxuries to pay the bills.
Anyway, yesterday dh mentioned that he was looking forward to going to a friends stag do next month. After some questions it turns out he has been planning all along to go on this friends stag do without discussing it first as in his words "I knew you would say we can't afford it and you don't want me to leave you for that long"
Aibu to be extremely annoyed by this? If dh had mentioned at the time that he really wanted to go then I would have asked a close friend to stay with me for the weekend and would have gone careful with spending over Xmas to ensure we had enough to cover stag do (not that we would be able to afford it then but I would not have made dh miss out) .
I have told dh that I am really unhappy with how he has just assumed I will manage at home for 3 days by myself (too late to ask close friends to stay as one is away and other will need more notice to book time off work. No family on my side to ask) and that this now means we will not be able to afford to go away as a family this year. He thinks I am being selfish and stopping him from seeing his friends.
Am I being selfish or is he?
(Normally a very good relationship, no other issues or big disagreements apart from this.
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Dh going away for stag weekend
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ihbu · 12/01/2015 14:41
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