So a dog turned up at our house just before Christmas I took it in and we cared for it over Christmas. In the new year we eventually got in touch with the council and discussed options and they took the dog to a local shelter for a bit and said if we wanted her they would call in a week and ask us before they let her out to adoption.
The house was really wired without her. I missed her at night and the DCs missed her so when they called I said yes.
Financially we had been planning to get a dog for about a year then my DH died and I didn't even think about. But we can afford the insurance and food costs that come with a dog.
We had a dog for 10 years before this who died 5 years ago and we were waiting for the DCs to get a bit older before we got another dog. I have had dog nearly all my life so I know the commitment that is needed.
She is great with the DCs. They love her and I have now said we can name her because she is living with us now. Turns out they had secretly named her over Christmas.
I work part time 3 days a week but I can come home in my lunch break and walk the dog and my PILs pop in to see her somedays.
More importantly I have seen the DCs smile so much more when we took her in and she is giving us a reason to get out the house.
But I have had loads of comments saying that I haven't thought it through. That I am trying to fix the loss with the dog. That it's too soon to bring new things into the DCs lives. That I am not thinking straight and I will regret this.
But it just feels right a bit like she came to us at the right moment and we all needed each other. But that is obviously over sentimental.
So what do we think? Is it too soon or should everyone just stop pocketing their noses in.
AIBU?
if i keep a dog its noones business
lickingstars · 10/01/2015 20:27
YANBU - I also had lots of negative comments when we decided to get a dog. We went ahead and bought a spaniel who has been a positive addition to our family and very much loved.
I'm so sorry for loss - of course a dog will never replace your husband or children's father but I'm sure she will help ease your grief.
I think it's wonderful and she has found a really lovely home with you all. If it makes you happy and your children happy and the dog happy then you have done the right thing.
I'm so sorry you have all been through so much and for your terrible loss, I hope your new dog brings you much happiness
Who exactly have been making these comments OP?
It's a fucking horrible thing to suggest, that you're trying to fill the hole your DH has left with a dog!
Even though it's nobody else's business, not even anyone on MN, it does sound as though you've thought it through and will give a dog who'd otherwise be homeless a safe and secure place to live.
Sounds perfect to me, especially as you've had a taster sesh and know that everyone gets on with DDog.
What name did your DC come up with (just to be nosy 
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Very few things in this life are guaranteed to make you happier in hard times. A loyal, much-loved pet is one of them. YANBU.
Sorry for you loss
I also got so many negative comments when Ddog came to us. She has undoubtedly been a fantastic addition to our lives.
I'm sorry for your losses. Like others have suggested sounds like serendipity to me. She found you, it was meant to be. I hope you enjoy your future lives together.
so sorry for your loss. Tell people to but out!
I hope you and your dc have wonderful times with your new dog.
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Really sorry you all if your loss, that can't be easy in any of you & no sane person would think you could fill a space left by your DH & your DCs DF, but it sounds to me like this dog is a special kind of angel sent to help heal broken hearts - in other words, it's meant to be & she turned up on your doorstep for a reason
so YADNBU & the sticky beaks can butt out 
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