Please bear with me here, I realise it's quite a long post. I haven't been here long but have to vent my anger about the stink of hypocrisy in some of these threads.
I will give you an example.
Could someone please explain the difference in advice?
Someone posted here, whose husband had put on weight and she didn't find him attractive any more and no longer wants to have sex with him. She wanted advice how to go about telling him diplomatically.
Here are some of the replies that were on the first page:
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I think you need to be honest with him. He deserves it and it will spare him the agony of wondering whether it is more than just how he looks that you don't like.
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You don't seem horrid. IMO you are not being direct enough.
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Men need competition to motivate them so find a fab looking man that you don't fancy and start inviting him around when your husband is there.
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I think it's perfectly reasonable that she tells her husband in as diplomatic a way as she can that his weight gain is very unattractive as well as unhealthy and that he needs to do something about it.
However, a more recent thread about someone who put on weight and her husband didn't fancy her any more. Effectively, he's taken the advice of the posters above and said what he thinks, even if it's painful. (I think in a more diplomatic way than I ever would by saying "we should BOTH try and get fit and lose some weight")
Cue these cracking replies on the first page:
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Wow. I assume he's Adonis?
Tell him to fuck off. Lose weight for you not him. In fact lose weight and then refuse to have sex with him.
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what a bastard.
That's a really unfair thing to say to you.
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I don't understand how he can be a good husband, when he fails so spectacularly in this crucial area. It belies so much. For example, that he's a shallow, superficial, unkind knuckle-dragger
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Tell him no more bjs until his cock is at least two inches longer. What a twat he is.
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Seriously, this man is not a good husband, he is an arse. You have had his children Ffs.
Dh still wanted as much sex as possible with me when I was a size 22 as he did when we met. (I was a 12 then, and am back to a 14 now)
Lose the last stone (and well done on the first) then tell him you don't find him attractive as he is too fat and his cock is too small.
Arse.angry
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Good people aren't selfish and shallow.
Those are two pretty unpleasant characteristics.
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He's not a good man. Really he isn't.
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A good husband and father does not piss all over his wifes self esteem. Selfish and shallow are bad enough traits but this is being cruel
Can someone enlighten me?
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RockOnRuby · 10/01/2015 16:14
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