We're supposed to be getting married May next year although nothing has been organised or booked yet. Dp openly admits that as his first marriage went sour he's not a big fan of marriage anymore but as he knows it's important to me, he'll do it got my sake. The rights and wrongs of that are a different thread altogether but anyway.
So we have just over a year to save up. I said I'd be happy with a quick , cheap registry office. He said he doesn't wAnt that and wants a bigger, posher do. Strange really considering he supposedly doesn't care about marriage anymore.
So anyway we've settled on a package deal at a nice venue, all inclusive (ceremony, reception, buffet, dj etc) for £1300. On top of that we'll obviously need to pay for rings, wedding licence, the bloke who marries you, cars and other extras.
The annoying bit is that dp has decided we're not to save any more than £50 a month. That saved up over a year doesn't even cover the package deal and he knows that yet says he's not prepared for us to save any more than that and it will 'work out' and I'm 'not to worry'.
We can easily afford to save more. We have around £300 spare each month after groceries and everything else but dp doesn't want to spend a year saving as he wants to 'enjoy' the spare money we have.
Aibu to think HE'S been unreasonable? I've said if he doesn't actually wang to get married he doesn't have to but he says it's not that, he just doesn't want to save more than £50 a month even though we can afford to!
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Seishan81 · 10/01/2015 09:23
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