About his cold.

[itsnotmeitsyou1]

My partner has caught his second bout of man-flu in a space of 2 months. He's gone into full blown pathetic mode, came home yesterday and he had done nothing but sleep/lay in bed all day. Snotty tissues everywhere. Hadnt taken any medication/anything that may relieve symptoms (he forgot apparently).

I'm getting really fed up of the 'dying animal' act every time he so much as sneezes! So yesterday, I came home, told him he's not a teenage boy and I would like a coffee since one of us actually has to work regardless of how ill we feel. Side note, we both work by the hour, no sick/holiday pay so not really in a position to miss work. He came for a quick visit by my work today and said I'm being a bitch (it was mostly in jest, I think).

Now I'm not totally disagreeing, however as an adult with responsibilities I feel like only serious illness requires coming to a total stop. Migraines need recovering from, flu can knock a person for six. However this is a cold, not even a bad one. Am I being unreasonably mean?

[Gileswithachainsaw]

I do t think. you are bu tbh.

but then. If I have to carry on and Dds carry on then I dont see why dp should get to go to bed. It's the same sodding cold we managed to function.

colds are no excuse to behave as if your dying it's just a cold.

[itsnotmeitsyou1]

I don't have it this time, or yet anyway. However last time we both had it, I still went to work but he cancelled job opportunities to sleep it off. I think I'm still cross from then, hence why I pre-empted it this time with making him get up/make me coffee.

Its not that I have no sympathy for colds, they are horrible. I just don't think having copious amounts of bed rest/not working helps in the slightest.

[Gileswithachainsaw]

He needs to suck it up. like everyone else does

[MoreBeta]

It has been scientifically proven that men have weaker immune systems because their bodies devote more energy to reproduction.

Given the choice of living or reproducing men will choose reproduction every time. Honestly its true. Scientists at Cambridge published research on this.

I am a man and if I have a cold my DW always asks if I have taken a paracetomol or if I need a GP visit.

She never understands. What I need to do is either a) have complete bed rest and be waited on hand and foot or b) reproduce.

If at all possible both a) and b) would be good.

[itsnotmeitsyou1]

Morebeta - I never knew! Now I feel utterly terrible, and will be sure to make it up to him. Once he's cooked my dinner. And stopped being a snotty man-child.