To only take one of my children on holiday

[Aloneandnowwhat]

So having been ripped off by my ex I have next to no money.
I am a single parent working full time and just wanted to take my kids (3.5 and 1.5) on a little holiday abroad this year.
Would I be a horrible mother to leave the 1.5yo with family and take the older one? To save on costs.
It doesn't feel right but youngest would never know and oldest would love it.

[eosmum]

Stay home and take both?

[Daveface]

I think YABU. Your youngest might not realise but your big one will know you left them behind.

Could you do a UK holiday with all of you instead?

[ViolettaBridgettettette]

How has your ex ripped you off?

I'm on the fence.

What sort of holiday do you have in mind?

[lunar1]

Your youngest will know from pictures that they were left behind when they are older. I wouldn't do it.

[QTPie]

When DSIL was 2 and DH was 4, DMIL took DH on holiday and left DSIL at home. Amazingly, DSIL is still very bitter 39 years on! However there may be more family dynamics at play than just one holiday... ;)

Could you do a holiday in the UK with both of them?

[TheWomanTheyCallJayne]

I would if the younger one was happy being left. A stay with Granny or whoever is like a holiday anyway at that age as long as they're happy with that person.

[PurpleStripedSock]

What sort of extra holiday costs will you have for a 1.5 year old? I don't get it.

[LittleprincessinGOLDrocks]

The youngest may find out in the future though, by someone letting slip / seeing photos. How would you answer them when they asked why you left them behind?
I think I would opt for a cheaper holiday and take both (UK holiday, out of usual season etc) or stay home this year and save to go next year.

[DamnBamboo]

Yes YWBVU.
Why would you even consider that?

[ohmyactualgiddyaunt]

Yabu. Stay in the UK and take both. A 3.5 yo will enjoy a week at haven or butlins.

[ghostspirit]

there might be a deal you can find where a child gos free? like someone else said maybe find a holiday in uk you can go to. your children wont care if its here or abroad. or maybe give yourself more time to save?

[sleepingdragon]

The 9.50 sun holiday offer is on at the moment, and there are lots of sites where people are uploading the codes so you don't need to buy the sun or have been collecting them. I haven't been before but am planning to book one for this year. I have been told you need to be flexible with dates,its best to upgrade if you can afford it, and you get charged extra for things like towels and bedding so its cheaper to take your own. There are some European campsites to, eurocamp and that sort of thing, and loads of UK holiday camp holidays.

[crapatmultitasking]

The 1.5 year old will go free (or almost) If you can why not take them both ? Its hard being a working mum,enjoy the sunshine and not having to worry about the day to day stuff,build sand castles,relax and splash in the pool .

[Quitelikely]

Darling people will judge, they always do but I say go for it!!!!!

You won't actually be harming anyone so...............

[BackforGood]

YWBVU.
Go away with them both, in this country.
Can't you imagine how hurt they would be when older, to realise what you'd done ?

[Iggly]

Yabu. Why does it have to be abroad?

Either get a last minute deal or go in the uk. The 3.5 year old wouldn't really be fussed anyway!

[SMOGY]

Honestly I wouldn't do it, but I also don't see that there is anything majorly wrong either. So what if they see pictures when they are older? You just say you were only little then so you had fun with gran. I doubt they'd be upset tbh. My friend recently took her five year old to Lapland and left her 9 month old behind, because she didn't know any different, and having her there would have limited what they could have done, when her lg is older they will take her too, really what are they missing out on??

As I said me wouldn't, just because of how I am, but I know plenty who do and can't see the harm. Especially as it would be hard to go on your own with two children that age.

[TheHermitCrab]

Take a holiday in this country, going abroad would only be for yourself with the children at that age anyway.

I don't mean to be rude but it surprises me how many people think you need to go abroad to have a holiday. My OH's family have 2 or 3 holidays a year but must have one. My OH gets a sulk on at the fact we have only had 2 holidays ever.

It's unfair your ex has affected this but spend the time in this country and have a nice break with both your children.

[SnowWhiteAteTheApple]

Stay in the UK and take them both, unfair to exclude a child even if they are too young to know.

[IsabeauMichelle]

Good lord. I can't believe how many people are saying YABU! Nothing wrong with this whatsoever. Blimey.

[WinterShivers]

I don't actually think she is being unreasonable. "Aloneandnowwhat" do what you feel is best!

[WinterShivers]

IsabeauMichelle Me neither, I'm sure she'll take the both of them on the next holiday

[FreeWee]

Find a holiday you can take both on or not at all. I can't imagine not taking both my children (when the second arrives) on holiday together because it's a shared experience for them as siblings.

[ViolettaBridgettettette]

Actually just read that you want to take her abroad. Much nicer to have both in the uk. It's ok to do individual treats/time but that seems a bit too much