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to ask if you put your knife and fork together when you've finished your meal?

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m0therofdragons Wed 07-Jan-15 16:39:56

I've always done this and never actually thought of it as a thing until I met dh. He'd just leave his cutlery wherever on the plate. I can't remember but I guess I said something as he's been putting them together for years and I forgot he ever didn't. Recently he's been forgetting which apparently drives me nuts for no logical reason. In my mind it's just standard etiquette. Just wondered how weird I am really.

SunnySomer Wed 07-Jan-15 16:41:28

You're normal

TakesTwoToTango Wed 07-Jan-15 16:41:30

Yes I do. I was taught it was the done thing.

SaucyJack Wed 07-Jan-15 16:43:05

If we're at the in-laws/out then I put them at five o' clock.

It's hit and miss otherwise.

ImFineThankYouSusan Wed 07-Jan-15 16:43:34

Only when I am eating out/in someone else's home.

I might do it at home, I don't know
I am not conscious of it like I am elsewhere.

loudarts Wed 07-Jan-15 16:43:37

Yes and the dc do as well

Findingthisdifficult1234 Wed 07-Jan-15 16:44:20

Yes always

CakeAndWineAreAFoodGroup Wed 07-Jan-15 16:44:45

I was told it's how you signify that you've finished.

TheLovelyBoots Wed 07-Jan-15 16:45:18

Yes, together and at 5'clock. This what we do at restaurants and likewise, my children have to do this at school.

Graciescotland Wed 07-Jan-15 16:45:56

It is standard etiquette. It means that you're finished your meal. In my waitressing days it used to drive me nuts when people wouldn't do this as it means you have to guess if they're finished to ask if you can clear the table. Even my 4yo knows you put your cutlery together in the middle of the dish at the end of a meal.

BIWI Wed 07-Jan-15 16:46:10

Of course. It's a fairly basic piece of etiquette

Alibalibumblebee Wed 07-Jan-15 16:46:14

Yes, always.

Memphisbelly Wed 07-Jan-15 16:46:16

Yes at school we wouldn't be allowed to leave the table until we had done it and it just stuck in my head, dh didn't get taught this but does it now as ds tells him grin

Screwballscrambled Wed 07-Jan-15 16:46:19

It is a sign to a waiter your finished with the plate and ready for it to be collected so I do it when I'm out but I find that I naturally do it at home as it is easier to carry the plate that way.

x2boys Wed 07-Jan-15 16:46:29

I do as does dh but he puts them together at the side of his plate which I was taught was a bit commomconfused

LurkingHusband Wed 07-Jan-15 16:46:42

I was taught that knife and fork straight and next to each other means "finished and enjoyed" but knife and fork crossed meant not enjoyed.

Funny, haven't thought of that for years, until we were bringing up DS - MrsLH thinks I'm weird (she can talk grin)

SuperMoonIsKeepingMeUpToo Wed 07-Jan-15 16:47:03

6 o'clock here.

WerewolfBarMitzvah Wed 07-Jan-15 16:47:07

Is this a British thing? Or do other countries do it too?
I do btw, as do most people I know.

ApocalypseNowt Wed 07-Jan-15 16:47:46

I put them together to show i've finished in case the complete lack of foodstuffs left doesn't give it away

What's the 5 o'clock thing? I'm sure i'm being dense but what does it meeeeean?

m0therofdragons Wed 07-Jan-15 16:49:45

Okay that's what I thought but then realised I could be the one with the odd upbringing. Dc do this at 6 and 3. Love dh a lot but his parents are socially awkward.

TooExtraImmatureCheddar Wed 07-Jan-15 16:49:59

I do. 6 o'clock, though - you 5 o'clockers are just weird.

TidyDancer Wed 07-Jan-15 16:50:55

Yes I do this, was taught as a child that it was polite.

BitOutOfPractice Wed 07-Jan-15 16:51:31

Yes I always do - second nature. So do the kids

Crossed knives means an argument you know!

nocarbsplease Wed 07-Jan-15 16:51:44

Always. 5 o'clock too.

Lucked Wed 07-Jan-15 16:54:20

Yes if eating out or at someone else's house but don't really bother at home, I usually say something when I am done plus we don't have a waitress.

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