I was at my friends house and both her dd (22mth) and mine (20mth) were playing alongside each other nicely. Friend's dd started playing with a kitchen set - mainly a saucepan in which she had cooked 'food' and was emptying some of the food onto 2 plates.
My dd loves kitchen sets. She wanted one of the plates which I thought was fine so I asked friend's dd if my dd could have a plate and then allowed her to take one. At which point friend's dd started getting upset (tears) and my friend literally tugged the plate out of my dd's hand to give back to her daughter. My instinct was to stop my friend as I found this quite upsetting for my dd.
Of course my dd was upset. I distracted her with other bits of the kitchen set. My friend later said to me her dd had recently spent a lot of time with a family member's child who snatched from her a lot and now my friend is trying to teach her dd not to just give up her toys if another child takes it.
I agree with not letting another child take a toy if the first child is playing with it. But in this situation I can't see that this was applicable - my dd wasn't taking her toy, she just wanted one plate. In my mind this is sharing a toy. In the reverse situation I would have explained to dd that she can have the saucepan and one plate and let her friend share the other plate.
So AIBU to be annoyed that my friend tugged this toy out of my dd's hand? And if I am NBU then how would you tackle this situation (bearing in mind this is a friend whose house I am at, playing with her daughter's toy)?
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AIBU?
To think my friend should not have snatched a toy from dd?
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squishinglittlefatcheeks · 06/01/2015 20:19
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