Background is that I work f/t and have two young DCs 4 & 9.
I was a sahm from just before my youngest was born until she turned 1.5, at which point my relationship broke down so I had to find work to support us alone.
TBH I don't think I've ever really gotten over having to hand over so much of my previous life (and time with dcs, especially having to part with youngest and sending her to nursery) in order to work. Working hours aren't compatible with school pick up/drop off and we get around 2 hours each evening together. Then only two weekends a month (ex dp has them the other 2 weekends).
I like my job, my team are nice. But I often feel that I was a better mum when I was at home all the time and that I am only ever 'half' anywhere (at work I feel guilty I never know what's going on at school nor can attend most of the events- my mum has to do this) and at home I feel guilty I am not more committed to my job (due to wanting to be with DCs and never staying late at work).
I'm sure I'm not the only one who feels torn. However I do find myself feeling very jealous whenever one of my friends (particularly on FB) that are sahms announce what they've done for the day with their dcs.
Moot post really as mine are at school now so I'd just be at home all day waiting for them to get back anyway. But blergh, how do I 'get over it' ?
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SuperNovaCat · 05/01/2015 22:42
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