Probably am but ffs.

[MsAdorabelleDearheartVonLipwig]

Really lovely but really flakey friend has just changed our plans at the last minute yet again. She's done this a few times recently, it's starting to get annoying and I don't know what to do.

All meant to be going out this afternoon. Her dcs and my dcs are best friends. She asked if I could have her two this morning for a couple of hours while she popped into work, then we'd all have lunch here and head out. Since then she's made an appointment for herself this afternoon and she's taking the dcs with her so they won't be able to come out with us. I can't fit them all in my car anyway.

My two are obviously a bit disappointed that their friends now can't come. She offered to go out tomorrow instead but my two want to go today so I think friend is just going to take her two tomorrow.

Don't know whether to tell her I'm annoyed at her apparent lack of consideration for us or to just tell my two that we'll go tomorrow instead. Just feel a bit fed up that my time is apparently not important.

[BathshebaDarkstone]

I hate people who do this. I can't just drop everything at the last minute. YANBU.

[Notnaice]

What is the appointment and could it have easily been made for another day? I'd be frustrated too. Whether or not I said something would depend on the above.

[MsAdorabelleDearheartVonLipwig]

It's a doctors appointment for an ongoing problem.

[Jinglebells99]

What type of appointment is it? Medical? Where are you going? If the trip would be enhanced by the other children, I'd just rearrange for tomorrow. It doesn't sound like it has to happen today?

[abitwrong123]

YANBU. I have an equally lovely friend who does this and I have reached the point where I am quietly dropping her as I can never ever rely on her to turn up / keep arrangements and they're always arrangements that she has made....

The last straw was being let down on new years eve at the last minute after a string of let downs.

I tend to think that if she valued our friendship she would not do this.

[MsAdorabelleDearheartVonLipwig]

I guess we could do it tomorrow.

We've got the use of a private swimming pool today. Been before and the dcs love it. It's not available tomorrow though so we'd have to drive to the next town and use the public pool.

Was hoping for a quiet day tomorrow. They're back at school on Wednesday.

[CheeseBuster]

How do you get use of a private pool? Very at that!

[MsAdorabelleDearheartVonLipwig]

It belongs to the family that live at the big house in the next village. They let it out to locals. It's lovely, it's got a glass wall overlooking a formal garden, marble floors, individual changing rooms, under floor heating, a jacuzzi and a sauna and the most gorgeous showers you've ever seen.

The public pool with its grotty changing area, cold water and noisy people just isn't the same...

[BurningBridges]

Unless she is sick today (i.e. woke unfeeling awful/worse etc), I don't see why she can make an appointment, she already HAD an appointment with you. Is she genuinely too ill to go?

I had a friend like this for years, she'd cancel saying she was too ill, then 2 hours later she'd post on Facebook she was out with another friend and if I pulled her on it she'd say I was being mean as she felt better and simply decided to pop out -all the while leaving my DCs without their promised outing. Last time she did it, she cancelled with 45 minutes notice on a major day out and ended up going to the pub with another friend instead so I called the friendship off.

She went ballistic, but it was entirely necessary. I sense a drama llama.

[TheLovelyBoots]

I would find this very annoying indeed.

Maybe you should just resolve to make only last-minute plans with her from now on. I find this works better sometimes when children are involved.

[StillStayingClassySanDiego]

Take your dc's to the lovely pool today, it sounds fabulous!

It's her loss and yes I would point out to her that she's messing you around and her kids will miss out on a lovely afternoon.

[MsAdorabelleDearheartVonLipwig]

Oh she's not ill, it's just something she has looked at occasionally.

I'm not very good at confrontation and like I said, she is lovely, usually. She just seems to have a bit of a blank spot when it comes to making arrangements. It might not be worth the bother saying anything but I'm glad I'm not the only one who thinks IANBU.

[FunkyBoldRibena]

Go swimming today and enjoy it.