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To sod the pill!

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Lottie5 Mon 05-Jan-15 03:06:53

Am 36 and have been on the pill since age of 19 apart from when we were ttc and when I was pregnant. I was on a combined pill for over ten years til it gave me serious headaches then moved to progestogen only one, which stops my periods almost completely apart from annoying random spotting and makes my breasts very very sore.

This week I have decided to sod it. The breast tenderness is getting too much now and tbh I worry about the long term effects of messing around with the hormones in my body including a supposed increased breast cancer risk. I feel really anxious about having things like coils put inside me so the pill has been the most obvious route but now I feel like I'm tired of shouldering all the risk of contraception and if dh wants sex he can provide his own barrier!!

Don't mean to be flippant but considering how rarely we have the energy to do it nowadays it doesn't seem to be worth potentially risking my health. Does anyone really know what the risks are with long term contraceptive pill use?!

Bulbasaur Mon 05-Jan-15 03:25:15

If you have no intention of having anymore children, can your DH get a vasectomy?

As for risks I'd do some research and see what the medical sites have to say.

But YANBU to come off it. I tried the depo before they made the implant and it was worried it would mess up my bone density so I stopped. We made do with condoms and pull out method for 7 years before we had an unplanned baby because we didn't want to stop and pull out. Not recommending the pull out method, but there's no reason you need to shoulder all the contraceptive responsibilities.

Lottie5 Mon 05-Jan-15 04:28:54

Having a very heavy bleed since I've come off it though shock

StrangeGlue Mon 05-Jan-15 05:03:38

Totally understand where you're coming from. They make the pill sound amazing, and it is, but the massive change in me when I've come off it to ttc has really made me not want to go back on.

crazypenguin Mon 05-Jan-15 06:04:23

Kicking the pill was one of the best things I've done. Age 15-35. Turns out I'm not a sex hating bitch after all! It really is sold as a solution, but for so many people it causes more problems than its worth. It's the "like it or lump it" attitude of the docs that really annoyed me.
The one that made me say "Fuck it!" Had me bleeding for 3 weeks out of 4. Great contraception, but nearly ruined my relationship.
Be warned though, my sex drive came back with an enormous bang! I was like an animal! Keep plenty of barriers around IYSWIM... wink

Writerwannabe83 Mon 05-Jan-15 06:05:44

I had a Mirena coil for tears, had no problems with it (until it needed to come out) and it worked really well. I had it removed for TTC purposes and the time has come where I need to start thinking about having another one put in but some reason though I really don't want to. It wasn't nice having it put in, it definitely wasn't nice having it taken out and I have no urge to rush to my GP to have another. My DH keeps mentioning if and bringing it up in conversations - I've done pretty well as fobbing him off so far grin

I feel like telling him to sort his own contraception out and buy some condoms instead of expecting me to go through all the horrors.

ithoughtofitfirst Mon 05-Jan-15 06:09:15

What will you do instead?

I need to sort my contraception out but don't 'do' hormones because of MH problems...

Are condoms reliable enough?

Maybe I should start my own thread confused

Mammanat222 Mon 05-Jan-15 06:51:27

Rarely having sex doesn't prevent pregnancy. I'm 38w with a baby that was the result of sex once in 6 weeks. Granted we didn't use condoms and were in discussions about ttc number 2. But still couldn't believe after all these years that it was true and once really was enough. ....

MrsJamin Mon 05-Jan-15 06:55:34

Vasectomy is the way to go! Love that I don't have to pump my body with hormones. If you're definitely done with baby making, get your dh to look into it!

ithoughtofitfirst Mon 05-Jan-15 06:56:01

Uh oh!

Congratulations though mamma

Territt16 Mon 05-Jan-15 08:30:01

Everyone talking about Vasectomys, make sure you check out the risks with that.....

financialwizard Mon 05-Jan-15 08:35:14

I knew that I didn't want anymore babies at all and got sterilised. Mr FW would have had the snip but due to his work at the time couldn't. That was 4 years ago, and I don't regret it for a second.

Lottie5 Mon 05-Jan-15 14:40:40

Congrats Mamma! No I wasn't planning on going unprotected just using condoms on the once in a blue moon occasions!! Dh won't have a vasectomy - think deep down he hasn't completely ruled out a second child although I pretty much have!! grin

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