Years ago now, when my DCs were pre schoolers, they often went on tea dates with friends, not unusually, and the general thing was that, as an unwritten rule, parents would stay while their DCs were in the friend's house.
A couple of my DCs friend's parents worked most weekdays, so when I was with my DCs at tea I kind of hung out with the nanny. The nannies were all perfectly nice, but a lot younger than me, didn't have much in common with me and I was quite shy, so conversation quite hard work. also the nannies were often busy working.
I always felt somewhat resentful that the working mums didn't ever feel the need to apologise or even let me know in advance that I would be spending time with a nanny who was also often new to the family and, naturally, to me.
I didn't want to seem snobby or stand offish and not chat to the nanny but I always worried that it was a chore for them too, especially when they were working.
Even though these working mums were also my friends, I never mentioned it to them that I felt uncomfortable or anything, but always wondered what other mums would do in the same circumstances because i wondered was I being a mug?
Especially as some of the invitations were "why don't you and your dc come over to tea?" To me that sounded like they were going to be their as my host.
Just curious as to what others would have thought in similar circumstances?
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tobee · 05/01/2015 01:11
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