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Let down over Christmas plans

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leanmachine Sun 04-Jan-15 11:09:58

My Mum and Dad flew to Dubai to see my older brother for Christmas so it was agreed that we would have our Christmas at New Year when they returned. Only they changed their plans.

They decided that they enjoyed the sun so much that they would stay on for an extra ten days so my Christmas didn't happen. They cannot understand why I am upset and cross with them.

LadyLuck10 Sun 04-Jan-15 11:11:26

Do you have a dp or kids op?

scarletforya Sun 04-Jan-15 11:15:49

What age are you Op?

leanmachine Sun 04-Jan-15 11:16:32

No, I live with my Mum and Dad so was "home alone"!

esiotrot2015 Sun 04-Jan-15 11:16:38

can't you just be happy for them?

esiotrot2015 Sun 04-Jan-15 11:16:59

how old are you?

dexter73 Sun 04-Jan-15 11:17:26

Reserving opinion until more information!

Hoppinggreen Sun 04-Jan-15 11:18:13

Well I'm assuming you are a grown up if you were old enough to be left alone.
How often do they see your brother? Maybe they wanted to spend time with him.
YABU

leanmachine Sun 04-Jan-15 11:18:49

I'm 22, "big brother" is 23 and is out in Dubai for 4 months, Nov to the end of February.

dexter73 Sun 04-Jan-15 11:18:52

Unless you are quite young then I guess you have to accept that they are living their own life and probably expect you to be able to get on without them.

scarletforya Sun 04-Jan-15 11:19:57

Ah, you're a grown up. Couldn't you have went with them?

CheeseBuster Sun 04-Jan-15 11:20:20

YABU.

petitdonkey Sun 04-Jan-15 11:20:45

Well I might be the only one to think so but I think it's shitty. At 22 I would've wanted to do something with my family for Christmas - friends of that age generally have plans with their own families. Were you on your own on Christmas Day OP?

HedgehogsDontBite Sun 04-Jan-15 11:21:21

I don't think YABU. My daughter is the same age as you and I wouldn't dream of leaving her alone for Christmas. Would be very different if she chose to be somewhere else.

MinceSpy Sun 04-Jan-15 11:21:24

Is he out there because of the horse racing?

formerbabe Sun 04-Jan-15 11:21:33

Why didn't you go with them op?

ThePinkOcelot Sun 04-Jan-15 11:21:42

I cant say I blame them tbh. A bit crap on you though. What did you do for Christmas?

esiotrot2015 Sun 04-Jan-15 11:21:56

Honestly couldn#t you have seen grandparents, friends, goe travelling on your own?

TheRealAmandaClarke Sun 04-Jan-15 11:22:06

Yanbu
It is thoughtless to change pans at such short notice leaving your dd alone fro Christmas.
I fail to see how age would make a difference, apart from whether or not it was legal to leave you alone in the first place.
Bah humbug to them.

leanmachine Sun 04-Jan-15 11:22:18

It was too expensive for me to go as I am a student. I didn't mind them going at all but their change of plans did.

Fabulassie Sun 04-Jan-15 11:22:20

I say YANBU. Your parents blew you off to be with your brother.

scarletforya Sun 04-Jan-15 11:22:26

I think they should have taken you too. I hope you weren't alone on Christmas.

PurpleSwift Sun 04-Jan-15 11:22:27

We're you invited?

TidyDancer Sun 04-Jan-15 11:23:19

I can understand why you were upset but not sure there's anything really wrong with what they've chosen to do. Could you not have gone with them? What have you/they said to each other since they told you?

YouTheCat Sun 04-Jan-15 11:23:39

That's a bit shitty. So you didn't have Christmas on the day because you thought you'd be having a family Christmas at New Year and then they changed their plans.

My dd is 20 and I can't even contemplate leaving her out at Christmas - though I'd be fine if she had other plans. But no way would I leave her on her own, make promises and then move the goal posts.

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