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AIBU to their their are a lot of people playing at being a sw

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Canigetanamen · 04/01/2015 08:31

I noticed a lot of threads about people being witness to a snap shot what the "deem" abuse ffs

This often included snap shots of bevahiour displayed while in public when the context is not know viewed through t he prism of their own parenting style

You get a lot of these posters saying well I would never parent,speak to my child like that forgetting that all people have parenting. Styles and the harshness of any parent is very subjective

you get told by some you must report this incidents though you have no clue what's happend as you only viewed a snap shot less a child get abused and many children are abused because people do nothing

Yes but that is in a environment were the child is known to the adult and it's very clear what is happening over a period of time.
Eg a child attending school or adult who's child plays with a local child regularly who notices things or has disclosures made but dose nothing VERY different.

those who actually know anything about abuse of child protection no that ss do not make sweeping judgements based on one off incident they as they no people have bad days and all my not be as it seems at first glance and deeming something as abuse simply because it offends your guardian sences and you wouldn't dream of doing that with your children is dangerous and often let's real abusers go un noticed the whole point is that child abusers are often VERY controlled and don't often loose it their charming and will have every one believe they are the prefect parent and very seldom loose in in public somone mentioned poor baby p on one of the threads and the hole point to that was she was very controlled an manuliputive and didn't ever loose it in front of any one just like abusive men are not usually the ones having the row with their wife in tesco their usually the ones that have never so muched raised their voice in public hence people finding it even harder to believe and more easily dismissed*

So if you really think a child is being abused then call ss if you no the context and your shore your not viewing the incident the though the prism of your own parenting style because their is a big diffrence between labeling somone a child abuser and just being judgey about perceived poor parenting

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Eebahgum · 04/01/2015 08:41

I think the public perception of social services is inaccurate. As you say, people think a witnessed incident of poor parenting may be reported and the children will be removed. In reality schools report incidents over and over again that are deemed to need no further investigation; families that are deemed to require investigation undergo years of meetings and report writing before enough evidence is built up to remove the child (unless there is evidence of physical or sexual abuse, that's different). I don't know detail about the baby p case but there's a perception that no one said anything. I think it's more likely that lots of people said lots of things but as she was good at saying the right thing at the right time, they hasn't reached the threshold for removal yet.