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is it bad enjoying a bit of time to myself?

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littleteapotshortandstout Sat 03-Jan-15 20:54:43

Am in a fairly new relationship (9 months). We are very happy, though as we both have DC we've taken things relatively slowly - unlike relationships we both had in our 20s where we were living with others inside afew months etc. We've both now met each others DC (which has gone really well) and in a few weeks plan to intro the DC to each other.

So, all good so far. Over Xmas we've spent almost a week together (on average we see each other 3-4 nights a week but never more than 2 nights/days in a row) and by this morning I was really looking forward to a night in my own house, lazing about, watching crap tv and finishing off the Xmas chocs smile is that bad? I really love our time together, it's the best relationship I've ever had by a very long way. I feel a bit guilty for liking time on my own blush

Writerwannabe83 Sat 03-Jan-15 20:56:11

I love it when my husband goes out and I get time alone!! Total bliss grin

CombineBananaFister Sat 03-Jan-15 21:01:04

No way, totally healthy - sounds good for the longterm. Wish my Dbro would do this instead of throwing himself wholeheartedly (good) into a new relationship with no thoughts to children(bad).

OOAOML Sat 03-Jan-15 21:03:14

Good lord no! I find the lack of time to myself one of the hardest parts of the holiday.

Ragwort Sat 03-Jan-15 21:06:11

Not at all, I just spend two days away with my DH and was desperate for some time to myself when we got back grin - I just went out for a long walk on my own. He has been talking about going out for a drink with friends tonight and I keep reminding him but it doesn't seem to be happening ............ sad

I can't understand couples who are glued at the hips and never do anything separate.

EatDessertFirst Sat 03-Jan-15 21:07:53

YANBU at all! Just an hour alone in total silence mning is absolute bliss to me! It seems to help realign everything.

comeagainforbigfudge Sat 03-Jan-15 21:10:10

My dh went to cinema tonight. Blissful peace and quiet.

Gave me a chance to order a Domino's (gives him tummy problems), watch random things, currently the polar express (never had the time b4 Xmas)
And I've painted my nails.

I work nights so he quite often gets a night to himself whilst I hardly ever do.

MinceSpy Sat 03-Jan-15 21:11:59

I'm now, finally, in the position to have a whole day away. It's brilliant, just enjoy.

ithoughtofitfirst Sat 03-Jan-15 21:12:30

I know a lot of people like this but I get too lonely and start over thinking stuff. I should change my name to ioverthoughtofitfirst.

edwinbear Sat 03-Jan-15 21:20:20

dh took ds and dd to visit his parents for 3 nights just before christmas as he was on holiday and i had to work, it was lovely having some time to myself and made me appreciate them all the more when they got home.

littleteapotshortandstout Sat 03-Jan-15 21:20:20

Thanks all! That makes me feel a lot better!

I'm an only child so I've always been a bit solitary. When my DC were younger at times I'd go and hide in the garden or the bathroom for a little peace and quiet blush

I love my bf, and love him being around. I do actually miss him a bit already (will see him next on Mon) but in a good way, not a hopelessly pining way! I think I just worry a little that in such a new relationship I should be desperate to see him, and not want to be apart etc.

championnibbler Sat 03-Jan-15 21:21:32

No.
YANBU. In fact, this is very healthy.

littleteapotshortandstout Sun 04-Jan-15 00:01:39

I hope so.

HemlockStarglimmer Sun 04-Jan-15 08:47:51

When our daughter was a baby she was a terrible sleeper and I couldn't ever get any sort of routine going. Once she started walking she would actually sleep after lunch for an hour or two. It was bliss once I'd managed to get through to her father that I did not want him to come and join me for the company. For the first time in 15 months I actually had an hour or so to myself and didn't have to interact with anyone.

Not unreasonable at all in my book.

Andrewofgg Sun 04-Jan-15 09:40:24

Thirty-five years married and we both sometimes enjoy a bit of time separately. In DW's case she has a friend whom I just cannot bear, no matter how hard I try, so they go off together; I meet friends (there is none whom DW detests that way but some she likes more than others IYSWIM) or just spend some time alone. Perfectly healthy.

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