to think an almost 3 yo is capable of getting their own tissue?

[CloudiaPickle]

DD will be 3 in March. DH has a habitof babying all the children, but as DD is the youngest I'm not sure if I'm BU. Up until last week, if she had a runny nose she'd ask for a tissue if we were out or go to the bathroom to get herself one if at home. When DH was off for Christmas he fetched her a tissue every time and wiped it for her.

She has a cold and sneezed yesterday while I was bathing her baby sister. She was standing next to the toilet roll saying 'oh no' and pointing to her snotty nose. I told her to get herself a tissue and she had a huge tantrum because I wouldn't (couldn't) do it for her. Similarly, this morning she sneezed while I was in the shower and though I'd left her with a packet of tissues she just stood holding them and crying, to the point she was hysterical by the time Igot out of the shower.

During the night last night, she calledme every time her nose needed wwiping resulting in her, the baby and I being up most of the night. I'd left her a tissue under her pillow but DH had wiped her nose for her just before bed so she was refusing to use it and waking the whole house. Except DH, who slept through it all because DD won't accept him during the night and baby is bf.

This morning I had a chat with DD about how she's a big girl and can get her own tissue and she's been happily doing so since, looking really pleased with herself. But I know when DH returns from work he'll be running to do it for her again and I'll be back to square one.

Am I being stubborn and unreasonable to expect her to do this herself? DH says she's poorly and needs mollycoddling. Bearing in mind, we also have the same debate about self-feeding and drinking from a cup (he'll hold it for her...!) I feel he's actually making DD and my life harder in the long run, but he thinks he should be able to 'help' her as she's still little. What do you think?

[ELR]

I think you are both right in your own way but I would def be encouraging the big girl behaviour. When he's at work it's you that has to deal with her so keep encouraging her to help herself which I run helps you.

[ELR]

Which in turn helps you!

[StillStayingClassySanDiego]

Well your last thread was about how much mothering your partner needed from you, his negligent attitude towards the children and from what you've said in this post he's still making your life difficult by 'holding her cup' 'feeding her ' and 'getting her tissues'.

He's still a twat.

[ApocalypseThen]

It's ridiculous not to encourage your daughter to do everything she can for herself.

Mind you, I've looked on in shock as a five year old demanded food be removed from her plate and her dad complied.