I am, for context, a good 3 - 4 years from having children. However, I'm getting married next year, and it came up over Christmas that my PIL will be expecting (and insisting) that I go back to work and they provide all my future children's childcare.
Sounds wonderful in theory. In practice they are so overbearing, I can't deal with having them in my life every day. They are already extremely upset that our wedding isn't religious, purely for the purposes of getting our future unborn children into a C of E/Catholic School (I'm not happy they are dictating a religion for my unconceived children). They are hugely controlling. And most importantly, shouldn't the decision about whether I go back to work be left up to me and my future husband?! It is not his parents' business. In addition, my MIL is extremely lonely, no friends/hobbies, with a husband who works constantly. It has been made pretty clear that she is keeping her life free so that she can bring up my children. They are hard work, and only ever add stress to my life.
It's so far away, but I feel compelled that next time it comes up with them to say that as an FYI, they will not be providing childcare 5 days a week. We could afford nurserys etc., and from a 'my wellbeing' perspective I already know that I couldn't cope with their extra level of involvement in our lives. It will cause a huge fall out, they will be upset.
Or should I just leave it to future Jewels to sort?
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Jewels234 · 01/01/2015 23:59
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