Dh, DC (3.5 and 2.5yo) and I packed up ourselves, our presents and 2 cats into a modestly sized car and drove for 4 hours to stay in my parent's family home for Christmas, arriving on Dec 22nd and leaving tomorrow.
It's been hard work. DF lives overseas and comes here especially to see us, but spends the majority of his time shouting down the phone in his language to people he works with/manages (owns his own business). Consequently, we see him at mealtimes and that's about it. Mum passed away in March 2014 and so isn't here to mediate.
Dsis comes down here to see her friends/us in that order, stopping in for meals and an occasional wash.
Extended relatives are about but do have their own lives, understandably. I didn't ever live here and so know no one other than relatives.
DF, while generous with cash, does expect us to clean his home (to a better standard than it was when we arrived) and also to cook and generally maintain the house. Dsis will cook but doesn't clean much and makes it clear that she resents DF's 'women's work' attitude.
Given all this, WIBU to tell DF that we are doing Christmas at our own house next year and that he's welcome to come to us?! Something in my soul recoils at playing host in a house where I'm a guest....
Oh and we also had to put up the Christmas decorations and do all the planning for the day as he couldn't be expected to take an interest in that sort of thing
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So this was our Christmas.
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PlumpingUpPartridge · 01/01/2015 19:50
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