I think probably IABU but every year we go to my IL's on Boxing Day or the day after and every single gift reeks of smoke and I have to air it out/wash it/clean it before DD can wear or play with it. This year MIL stored all the gifts in her bedroom until the day, she smokes in her bedroom and I felt physically sick at how much some of them smelt. All our clothes come straight off after we visit and into the wash, but it's just not fair on DD, DH or me (currently 20wks pg) to have to receive gifts that stink!
It's an ongoing issue as they 'kindly' stopped smoking in the living room when I was pg with DD, now 2.6, but I honestly don't think they understand that their whole house reeks and however many glade plug-ins you use it's vile.
I know I am being precious about this, but DH agrees with me but won't say anything more as 'it's their house and I don't want to upset them' which while I sympathise, it just means we aren't going to go round as it is just unacceptable to me.
There was a further issue whilst we were there on Saturday which I was made to feel bad about and just made my blood boil. BIL's bedroom is next to the living room with double glass doors through. He grows and smokes cannabis which I am vocally against especially with DD etc. half way through a film we all smelt it being smoked so I had to uproot DD and say 'got to go in other room now, we'll watch this later' obviously cue crying and everyone saying oh let her be... Sorry but I am not letting my 2yo sit in a room that stinks of drugs.
Aibu about this whole thing? Currently thinking of saying to them 'we're not coming round whilst there are drugs being smoked anywhere near the house, you can come round to ours but DD and I won't be coming over if that is going to happen'. Guess I just need someone to tell me I'm not being irrational and am totally ok to say this...
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speedbird17 · 29/12/2014 11:04
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