I found my way to Mumsnet via a discussion about a book and I do post here sporadically about books/gardening/pets but I have namechanged and I do need a kick up the bum but nice ones, if indeed such a thing is possible.
I'm 39 in April. I've got a bit of a difficult backstory which I won't go into now but essentially I was not "on the market" for a man for a long time, and when I was, I found meeting one who wasn't already attached was impossible!
It's hard to be too sad about that because I do have a full life in other ways but the absolute depression I feel today is over the likelihood I won't have a child.
It's very hard for anyone to empathise because friends with children generally would make jokey comments about 'you can have one of mine' and friends without are so through choice or perhaps a little younger than I am. I can't speak for anyone infertile and certainly I wouldn't be so insensitive as to draw parallels but it is there - the want to have a child coupled with the lack of ability or resources in my case.
The truth is, although I'll learn to live with it I am sure, it hurts a lot and people tend to assume it is an active choice which for some reason smarts even more.
At any rate, I had no one in real life to cry on so I've turned to here for some pull yourself together posts which Mumsnet does so well!
Happy new year to you all
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cherrycrushcake · 29/12/2014 09:56
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