I started my almost 3YO DD at Nursery at the end of October. There was no need to (I am a SAHM) but I felt pressure from various people . I was a disaster (I posted here for advice at the time) and I ended up taking her out 2 weeks ago.
After starting Nursery she developed terrible separation anxiety. She clings to me like a limpet, screams if I even go outside to get something out of the car, won't let her dad get her up in the morning, won't stay with him playing in the lounge while I do chores. She will still stay with my mum and dad, although if the slightest thing upsets her she wants me again.
I have never had to deal with this before as she has always been great staying with members of the family. Do I accept that she needs to cling at the moment and go with it or do I try to push the staying with family a bit?
My DH is getting very upset as he always had a close relationship with her. Tonight she said she was sad (she has speech delay so she finds it hard to express herself). When I asked why she seemed to think for a bit and said daddy hit her. Now I know that this is 100% untrue. DH would never raise a hand to her, he never even shouts. Also, she hasn't left my side for a week!! When she said this DH looked like he was going to bursts into tears. All we can think of is that when DH and DD were playing with the Peppa Pig house today he got up to tend to our baby DS, didn't realise DD was behind him and knocked her over. DH is still upset tonight and said, "imagine if she said that to anyone, they would think I hit her and we could have social services round).
I am also really upset tonight. My DD's personality seems to have changed and it's all my fault. We were hoping to send her to the excellent school attached to that Nursery but I can't imagine I can ever send her there again now. It's my fault for sending her before she was ready.
How do I deal with this?
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I need advice to help my DD with the anxiety that I have caused
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CountryMummy1 · 28/12/2014 22:55
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