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To be stressing out over my unfortunate post - marriage name??

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Shande80 Sun 28-Dec-14 15:22:36

DP and I are getting married in May 2016. The combination of my first name and his second name gives the same name as an undesirable soap opera character. I've already had sniggers and jokes and one person (who wasn't aware of my situation) joked "hey wouldn't it be funny if you married someone with the surname * oh how awful would that be!" shock.

The was I see it I have three options ...

1. Grin and bear it ... For years ... And years ... And years ...
2. Not change my second name which would be a shame as I'd like us to have the same name and this option would not go down well with his family. Plus his ex wife still has his surname which would make it seem even worse that I didn't iykwim??
3. Change my first name. I've always hated the fucker anyway but I can imagine it being a right faff on trying to get everyone on board.

It's stressing me out and I don't even watch the bloody program.

wasitsomethingisaid Sun 28-Dec-14 15:23:33

Nick cotton?

sharonthewaspandthewineywall Sun 28-Dec-14 15:24:11

Please give us a clue

StillStayingClassySanDiego Sun 28-Dec-14 15:24:26

Cain Dingle
Nick Cotton
Phil Mitchell??

Which is it, spill!

AuditAngel Sun 28-Dec-14 15:24:28

Double barrel your surnames

ArsenicStew Sun 28-Dec-14 15:24:34

Cindy Beale?

Double barrel it?

Stealthpolarbear Sun 28-Dec-14 15:24:37

He could take your name

EBearhug Sun 28-Dec-14 15:24:42

Would he consider changing his name to yours?

Gem124 Sun 28-Dec-14 15:24:44

Could you have a variation of your first name? Kate from Catherine for example. Or a doubles barrelled surname? Or he could take yours? X

BellaVida Sun 28-Dec-14 15:25:01

Keep your surname and hyphenate his. Will breaking it up like this help?

DHandhisJollyCarolingfoot Sun 28-Dec-14 15:25:02

Change your first name.

WhyYouGottaBeSoRude Sun 28-Dec-14 15:25:06

Keep your own name, he can change to yours or keep his own. Sod his family, sod the ex. Do what makes your happy with YOUR OWN NAME. It's the 21st century.

skylark2 Sun 28-Dec-14 15:25:46

Double-barrel yourself?

You don't even need to do it legally - you can just choose to go by it. I'm legally Mrs Hisname but I've always gone by Mrs Myname Hisname.

Jewels234 Sun 28-Dec-14 15:26:00

Dierdre Barlow?

Shande80 Sun 28-Dec-14 15:27:29

Jewels, think of the daughter and you have it.

SantasBassoon Sun 28-Dec-14 15:27:40

Barry Evans?

Just keep your own name of you're going to hate the alternative. It's not unusual enough for anyone to care if you do, and if it avoids you being left with a comedy name everyone will understand.

HeartsTrumpDiamonds Sun 28-Dec-14 15:27:55

His first wife still has his name? FFS that would be more reason not to change it!

Don't change it. I got married 13? 14 years ago and I wish I had never changed mine.

You could also move country if it bothers you that much. English soaps are only well known in England, and perhaps Australia.

BelleateSebastian Sun 28-Dec-14 15:27:59

Tracey Barlow?

GoofyIsACow Sun 28-Dec-14 15:28:05

Yes, i would double barrell it and tell us who it is Kat Slater...

Shande80 Sun 28-Dec-14 15:28:18

He won't change his name.

SantasBassoon Sun 28-Dec-14 15:28:34

Ah, Tracy Barlow. She's definitely too well known for people not to think of her. Sick with your own surname.

ArsenicStew Sun 28-Dec-14 15:28:36

In that case, change your first name grin

BelleateSebastian Sun 28-Dec-14 15:29:13

Ooh I did that before I saw your reply to Jewels (Hi 5 to myself!)

crocodiledundeelady Sun 28-Dec-14 15:29:13

Congratulations on the engagement!

what about him taking your name? or going double-barrelled (just you or both of you)? would yoursurname-hissurname sound better with your first name? Personally, I never considered changing my name on marriage and I'd say about half of my friends have been the same, and it has been a total non-issue -- having different surnames could be something you'd get used to very quickly. This could be just me but the idea of a lady changing her first name as well as surname on marriage makes me feel a little sad (though obviously I see where you're coming from). But ultimately you should just do whichever one you seem comfortable with smile.

Andrewofgg Sun 28-Dec-14 15:29:43

I knew a woman whose first name was Victoria and who married a Mr Cross. At least they didn't call their son George.

I also knew a woman whose surname of birth was House and whose parents called her Wendy!

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