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Wibu to leave ds, 8 days old, to cry?

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ACardiganForCat Thu 25-Dec-14 21:11:57

He wants to sleep on me or on boob all night. Parental advice is to shut the door and leave him to cry, he will stop eventually. Is this unreasonable?

whothehellknows Thu 25-Dec-14 21:12:50

At that age? YABU.

Spurtle Thu 25-Dec-14 21:13:29

Don't do it! He's 8 days old, he needs comfort, let him sleep on you. I know it's hard, but the newborn stage is short.

Workrelatedquestion Thu 25-Dec-14 21:13:37


poocatcherchampion Thu 25-Dec-14 21:13:43

Massively unreasonable

orangeone Thu 25-Dec-14 21:13:44

He's 8 days old. Do what YOU want and instincts tell you as his mum. Not anyone else... Good luck. I remember those first few weeks were exhausting and it must be even worse over Christmas.

sanityisamyth Thu 25-Dec-14 21:13:54

8 days? If you'd said 8 months or 8 years, possibly, but definitely not 8 days.

chestnut100 Thu 25-Dec-14 21:13:54

Unbelievably unreasonable, I would go as far as to say utterly neglectful

Gadgettherobot Thu 25-Dec-14 21:13:57

Yes absolutely unreasonable. Don't do it!

coolaschmoola Thu 25-Dec-14 21:13:57

At this age YABU it would be both cruel and neglectful.

FushandChups Thu 25-Dec-14 21:14:39

YABVU - and will be surprised if you get any other response... your baby is 8 days old! Just over a week ago, they were snuggly in your tummy - of course they just want to be with you - that's all they know at that age!

simbacatlivesagain Thu 25-Dec-14 21:14:41

Yes. Leave him on the boob as long as he wants. It will be fine. he needs to feel your warmth. Otherwise get DH/OH to put him against his skin.

What parental advice? family or a book. If it is family tell them to shut up or go home. Your baby - your rules.

Is he feeding generally?

realme Thu 25-Dec-14 21:15:13

Ve4y very YABU!8 days!

IShallCallYouSquishy Thu 25-Dec-14 21:15:15

8 days old? He doesn't even know he's not part of you still. Please don't let him cry. Cuddle him, feed him, rock him. He needs that.

rabbitsnap Thu 25-Dec-14 21:15:22

Yabu. Please don't shut him in a room. He is a tiny baby, and this will not last long. It is stressful and exhausting, but will pass. I hope you get some longer stretches of sleep soon.

Loletta Thu 25-Dec-14 21:15:41

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flanjabelle Thu 25-Dec-14 21:15:58

No way. No way in hell. No.

He is 8 days old!! Hes barely out of the womb!!! Of course he wants to sleep on you he has only just got out of you! Poor baby.

my2centsis Thu 25-Dec-14 21:17:33

8 days!! This must be an absolute joke!! Your baby is 8days old ffs and wants his mum and comfort! And you after 8 DAYS can't deal with him wanting him mum? Where he feels safest?!

Andanotherthing123 Thu 25-Dec-14 21:18:01

When they are that age they feed constantly and want to sleep on you-it's just what they're programmed to do. Please don't leave him to cry. He needs all that milk and constant feeding is designed to build up your milk supply. Hang on in there, it will get easier.

lovemakespeace Thu 25-Dec-14 21:18:04

Its so hard and I definitely would support sleep training much more than many on here...but not before 6 months. He is so tiny. You could try swaddling and white noise. Something like a sleepyhead is £££ but some find invaluable. You will survive OP! Fist of solidarity. If you do need to co-sleep then get your DH to look up the safety guidelines and share them with you.

DoingTheBestICan Thu 25-Dec-14 21:18:56

I'm not going to give you a hard time as I remember those days, let him sleep on you and get yourself set up with drinks and snacks next to you.

Good luck and enjoy this time as it goes very fast.

ACardiganForCat Thu 25-Dec-14 21:19:11

Advice from my Dmum. I am currently cosleeping with him because staying up 24hrs a day holding him proved untenable. He's feeding lots, less than a few days ago though.

Yikesivedoneitagain Thu 25-Dec-14 21:19:28

It can be so overwhelming to have a baby, who clings on to you all hours of the day and night. It can be a real shock to the system. I think everyone is right, though. You just need to get through it by letting baby do as he needs, no matter how much family members advise otherwise. I understand it sounding attractive, but it would probably even be physically painful for you to hear your little boy cry, I know my boobs would explode if I heard my 5 month old cry for more than a minute or so!

NotSayingImBatman Thu 25-Dec-14 21:19:33

Are you okay, Cat?

Don't worry, I'm not a weird internet stalker, just had a very rough time with both of my boys as newborns and feel the pain of anyone else that seems to be a bit baby bluesish.

It fucking sucks when they're on you like velcro, doesn't it? I don't know about you, but I'm a person that likes personal space and babies just don't seem to be compatible with that.

fanjoforthemammaries7850 Thu 25-Dec-14 21:19:44

Yes. He is a newborn. That is disgusting idea

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