Ok, I know I'm probably BU by saying that but that's exactly what I want to say to him.
We split over a year ago following 12 years of his EA and countless affairs. We agreed last xmas that we would alternate who would have them xmas day but the other parent would be allowed round to watch the DC open their presents.
This year it was his turn to have them. However, a month ago he told me he didn't have time to shop for their gifts read couldnt be bothered so he thought it best that I have them at mine and he would come round. Shortly after he then told me I should have them all day for Xmas dinner too but quickly changed his mind back when he discovered I would be spending Xmas with my BF. Not a problem from my perspective but he's decided he hates my BF despite never having met him and wouldn't willingly allow them to spend any time with him.
So he was supposed to turn up this morning but when I called him after the DC had woken up, he told me to go ahead and let them open their stuff and he would come round after to watch them play with their new things. The DC were upset about this so they called him and he turned up whilst they were unwrapping their last gifts.
I had bought him a couple of presents from the DC, he brought nothing. Fine. I tried to make him feel welcome offering him a drink etc but just 30 minutes after arriving he said he was going as he needed to get ready and I was to drop them off at his house. I also have made plans today and needed to get ready but I wasn't prepared to argue in front of the DC. So he went.
He then called saying he was coming for them and I better have them ready in 10 minutes. This was half an hour before I was supposed to get them to him. When he arrived he started arguing with me over the arrangements for the next few days, something we have already discussed and reached agreement on. I refused to discuss it further as I needed to get ready myself. He left telling me he hopes I choke on my Xmas dinner .
Ok, so I'm venting really as I'm absolutely sick to death of him being a cunt to me when frankly I don't think I've done anything to deserve it. I bend over backwards to accommodate his relationship with our DC and he's spoiled for me a day that I've put a lot of effort into when it wasn't really my 'turn'. It's akwats me putting in the effort for our DCs as he simply won't. I feel like telling him that as he can't put his selfishness to one side to ensure our DC's have a nice Xmas then he shouldn't be having them Xmas day at all. AIBU?
Ps. Merry Xmas everyone!
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To tell STBXH that this is the last xmas he spends with our DC?
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IfNotNow · 25/12/2014 11:13
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