This is probably going to be long in the interests of not drip feeding, and I am fully prepared to be told IABU, but I am currently very annoyed, so need some perspective.
DH is a very busy farmer. His family do not, and have never "done" Xmas. His DFather is a miserable, grumpy, sod who doesn't believe in Xmas or presents (quote from him this morning when I handed over gifts from DH & I - WTF do you want to waste your money on that crap for?), and DH always leaves stuff to the very last minute and panic buys after weeks of "have you gone Xmas shopping yet for my gift?" from me. (Last year he went out at 3pm on Xmas eve in a panic).
Xmas has always been a HUGE deal in my family, partly because my DFather used to have such austere Xmas's as a child. Think the other end of the spectrum to my DH.
DH is talking about working tomorrow morning as "he needs to get muck out" and "it's just another day". We are going to my family for lunch.
DH is usually as a rule, respectful, very considerate, helpful, kind and tries to do practical stuff (as an e.g. like make me toast and coffee for breakfast), that shows me he loves me, daily. I have no gripe with that. (It's important background and why I am prepared to be told IABU).
Last Thursday, DD was born by ECLS, so I can't drive at the moment. DH is very much a hands on dad, despite being hideously busy, helping with everything. We've been a bit flat out. (Again, why I'm prepared to be told IABU).
We've had plans to go into our local town this afternoon, a) so that we can run some errands and get to an appointment that we can't miss at 3.30, and b) so DH can buy something for me under the tree tomorrow - nothing huge, but something that I haven't chosen and bought myself and will be a surprise.
DH has just told me that he offered yesterday to run an errand for someone (call him X) today. X has a number of employees that can do the job, DH doesn't have to do it, but offered. I told him to ring X and get him to send someone, DH has refused. He is now running late - the likely hood is that now we'll make the appointment we need to, but do nothing else, which means DH won't manage to get any shopping done.
I've lost my temper with DH. I feel he's missing the point of why he should buy me a present, he thinks I'm making a fuss over nothing and that I'm being unreasonable. I am fed up of nagging him about Xmas presents. I am close to the point of telling him just to forget it, loosing my rag, making DH feel incredibly guilty and throwing all my toys out of the pram.
I need some perspective please.
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AIBU to expect DH to get me a Xmas present that I haven't had to nag him about?
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QuietTiger · 24/12/2014 13:26
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