He is drunk.
Today DH went out for his Christmas lunch/drinks with some colleagues. He WFH full time so socialising with colleagues is rare but he does go out with friends a few times a month but this has never happened before.
I decided that I didn't want to sit at home all day so I decided to come to my parents house but when I arrived home at 9pm DP was already home, had locked the door and left the key in the lock. I called his mobile, rung the doorbell and even shouted through the letter box. 20 minutes of making an arse of myself and the neighbours curtains twitching I got back in the car and went back to my parents. AIBU to be absolutely livid? I've spoken to a friend in RL and she is telling me not to make a big deal out of it as its Chritmas and it will make him feel awkward!!! At the moment I am foaming at the mouth, angry and am not sure how I am going to react when I see him. And to add insult to injury it has been nearly 4 hours and he has not registered that me or DS is not there!
Sorry if this is a bit ranty I am just V frustrated at the moment and I realise this should probably be in relationships.
AIBU?
DH has locked me and DS out
WhatEverItIsIDidntDoIt · 24/12/2014 00:46
Don't make a big deal?!? It's your Christmas too, why should you have to cater to his shitty behavior?
I'd kill him. The neighbors would be calling the police because I'd be killing him. 
That said, is this a habit in a string of shitty behavior, or is this a one off? That would be my starting point on how quickly I'd be forgiving him or calling a divorce lawyer. In a string of shitty behavior, this would be the last straw. In a loving relationship where a good husband has done something stupid, he'd better be making it up to me.
That said, do keep calm in front of DS and leave him at your parents while you two figure this out. He doesn't need to see his parents fighting at Christmas. He's an innocent bystander in the whole thing, and deserves to enjoy his holiday.
I would be seriously pissed. After I finished foaming at the mouth, I might be a little concered he was ok, but it would take some time. 4 hrs and not woke up yet. Keep ringing the phone off the hook.
Im glad your parents were near and you and ds are safe. I hope the wankers ok and has a massive hangover in the morning. Try not to be too quite tomorrow while doing last minute Christmas stuff around the house.
Hope all of you are alright, what a pain but sounds like you are making the best of it.
Is there anything he could do to 'make it up' to you (and DS and your parents) ?
Oh good. In a way I'm always glad to hear these things are a one off in a good relationship. Still frustrating though.
I'd still kill him though, just to put the fear of god back into him. 
I'm sure he's fine. He'll wake up in a couple hours and wonder where you are.
I think your friend is right. I've done this to DH more than once, and he's done it to me, although admittedly not due to drinking and both of is have woken to let the other in. It is very easy to forget to take the key out of the door. It is not surprising that he hasn't heard you knocking/ringing if he is drunk. As long as he is apologetic in the morning I wouldn't make him suffer too much. 
Hope you managed to get some sleeps op and as pp say if it's only a silly one off mistake I'd be making lots of noise today 
Christmas disco anyone?
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Why would anyone need to feel sorry for Bulbasaur's DH? Refusing to tolerate crappy behaviour isn't a character defect 
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