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Cantbelievethisishappening Tue 23-Dec-14 19:59:14

Seems to get a little bit worse each year. Just watched The Snowman.... so many memories. My two are mid teens so no longer excited about Santa. Keep thinking about my dad who died when I was their age. House is quiet, tree is twinkling and presents under it. I don't even know what I'm trying to say. Should be grateful for all I have. Just feel sad. sad

liger Tue 23-Dec-14 20:04:47

There are moments when the passing of time is palpable. And that feeling is one of life and of loss.
This time of year evokes so much nostalgia good and sad. I totally understand.

Cantbelievethisishappening Tue 23-Dec-14 20:07:41

liger You have summed it up really well.

Tobyjugg Tue 23-Dec-14 20:08:59

You and me both OP. Xmas day was my late Mum's b'day. Always feel a bit sad about this time of year.

Cantbelievethisishappening Tue 23-Dec-14 20:10:18

Here you go Toby flowers

Feelingworriednow Tue 23-Dec-14 20:12:40

I felt the same last night. Was child sitting for a friend who was out at a couples only do with lots of people I know. Christmas always brings into sharp focus how on my own I am: one DD, my mum and a brother I see once in a blue moon. I know it isn't true, but sometimes it feels like the rest of the world is having fun with lots of people who are pleased to see them.
My DD goes to her dads for a week between xmas and NY, and every year I have to work hard on making sure I actually speak to someone every day.
Sorry, didn't mean that to be quite so long.

ScrumpyBetty Tue 23-Dec-14 20:16:39

You're allowed to feel sad. Acknowledge your sadness and honour it, allow yourself to feel sad. There's so much pressure and expectation on everyone at Christmas, we think that everyone else out there is happy and having a blooming marvellous time, but this isn't the case!
Sounds like you are feeling sad about your two teens growing up, and missing your dad, it is totally okay to feel like this, is there anyone you can talk to over a nice glass of wine? X

Cantbelievethisishappening Tue 23-Dec-14 20:22:44

I am itching to open the wine in the fridge..... I think some have summed it up really well. You think everyone else is having the perfect Xmas with loads of people doing lots of lovely things. I have so much to be grateful for compared to others. Perhaps time for me to haul myself out of this pit of sadness and start counting my blessings.

FafferTime Tue 23-Dec-14 20:26:45

Feeling exactly the same - no particular reason, just "other people" appear to be having a better time. I really have nothing to complain about.

Tobyjugg Tue 23-Dec-14 20:31:00

Thanks Cant. Have cake.

ihatethecold Tue 23-Dec-14 20:33:30

Cantbelieve.
Tomorrow is a new day.
It's ok to feel a bit down.
We know we have a lot to feel grateful for but it doesn't stop us missing people or past lives

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