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to feel upset by this incredibly generous gift

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wellysrule Tue 23-Dec-14 19:23:12

I have just been given a card with £100 in it, and all I can do is cry...

It is from someone, now a friend (not close as we've not been to each others houses and maybe meet for coffee once a month, also we are at different stages in life), whom I got to know when I worked at a local cafe. I didn't realise they were going through a traumatic time health wise and just chatted to them about their interests and stuff. They have since said that this really helped them through.

They have recently re-established a church nearby and I have gone along to a couple of events and supported them although I have no religion.

I guess Im a bit embarrassed that they saw a need for it, embarrassed by the amount, embarrassed that I have given them nothing in return.

It is a lot of money and they obviously wanted to give it to me (and the children), and it is from the good of their hearts. I think I'm being silly to be upset by it, aren't I?

What do you think?

Wombat22 Tue 23-Dec-14 19:25:04

I think it was lovely of them. They must have found your support very helpful so enjoy it. Merry Christmas fsmile

RandomMess Tue 23-Dec-14 19:25:12

I think you are perhaps deeply touched and that is emotional. It sounds like you have given far more to them than you realise.

MehsMum Tue 23-Dec-14 19:27:25

They sound very generous and kind - and are responding to your generosity and kindness.
Maybe you could pop round with a bunch of flowers or some chocolates, so they know their gift was appreciated.

notagainffffffffs Tue 23-Dec-14 19:29:26

Agree with randommess. Why not pop round with some nice biscuits or something? They obviously are very grateful to you

QTPie Tue 23-Dec-14 19:30:42

It sounds like a real gift from the heart - what a lovely person they are and what a lovely person you must be to be given such a gift.

Accept in the same vein that it was given.

QTPie Tue 23-Dec-14 19:31:46

Agree with popping around with a very small token gift: they aren't looking for you to reciprocate, but it would be a nice gesture.

Cooki3Monst3r Tue 23-Dec-14 19:31:51

They clearly believe you have given them plenty back in return already. More than you obviously realise. I would graciously accept the gift for what it is, a very kind-hearted gesture.

Fuckmath Tue 23-Dec-14 19:33:42

I would definitely pop round with something and just take it in the spirit it's given, knowing that obviously your friendship and support has meant something

wellysrule Tue 23-Dec-14 19:42:23

thank you all for responding - I know I'm being daft but wow! what a gift - they would be horrified if they thought I'd been upset by it so shall make them something and take them photos of the events kids and I have been to which they funded.

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