To worry that my presents will be crappy?

[2tired2cry]

Or, more accurately, that they will think my presents are crappy?

Bf and I are going to his mums for Christmas Day this year, we didn't spend the day together last year as we had only been together a few months and we both have kids so didn't feel it was appropriate yet.

Bf's ex is one of those people that likes to spend as much as possible on huge presents that are really impressive (actually, not just presents but most things if you see what I mean!)

They were together for about 6/7yrs so for that length of time his family have been used to getting big expensive presents from her and I'm a bit worried that my presents won't compare.

I don't really know his family that well yet and wandering around town I just hated the idea of spending £20 each (which I can't really afford) on a random gift set for each of them that they may not even like, so I'm just making a whole load of home made sweets (fudge etc). I make my own jewellery (not professionally) so I'm giving the girls a necklace each, and I've made a 'baby's first christmas' decorating for his baby niece but I'm just really worried that they will look on the stuff I give them as 'homemade tat' and wonder where the real gifts are! Especially since they have been used to big expensive presents for the last 6/7yrs.

Aibu? Or just really nervous and trying hard to please?

[Frogme]

If they are nice people they will just be glad that you are making their ds happy. If they are not nice people then why should you care what they think of you?

[wowfudge]

Is your BF giving them his own presents? If so, I don't understand why you are not clubbing together. That said, I think what you have done sounds lovely and very thoughtful. I'd much rather receive something like that than a 'that'll do 3 for 2 gift set'.

[holeinmyheart]

It is a worry meeting people you don't know for the first time. However, they have to accept you for what you are.
I think what you have done, sound absolutely lovely. Believe me as a Mother of grown up children it would be more important for me to see my child happy, than receive showy gifts from someone who made my child unhappy.
Just go and be yourself and I am sure they will like you. Say nice things about your partner to his Mum and she will love that.

[Sn00p4d]

She's his ex for a reason though, remember that.
Thoughtful gifts are always the best ones regardless of cost, they sound lovely!

[2tired2cry]

Wowfudge he is giving his own presents, mostly money as that's what they've asked for towards specific things but I thought it would look even worse if I just put £5 in a card for each of them (as that is realistically what I could give them!)

They seem nice so hopefully even if they don't like it they would still pretend to

[HolyTerror]

You sound very thoughtful, and the presents sound lovely. But I'd echo another poster in asking why you didn't just club in with your bf to buy his family presents together, without specific pressure on you? I've never given separate presents to my now-husband's family.

[2tired2cry]

Yes, very true Sn00p.

[HolyTerror]

Sorry, cross-post. But in that case, I would have just added my fiver to his money gift and signed the card together.

[JennyBlueWren]

If they were like my in-laws they'd love such a gift, as would my parents. As adults they can probably buy themselves things they want anyway and a present that you've put time into shows much more thought and care.

[Sparks1007]

They sound like love,y gifts and better than a fiver!

[Sparks1007]

Lovely even