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weelittlething Tue 23-Dec-14 07:35:06

We were having a Christmas party at ours for a group of close friends who we've known for ages. They were all staying over. Towards the end of the night some of us got in our PJs and we were chatting over a nightcap. We started poking fun at one of our best friends (this isn't unusual for said friend) and everyone was laughing and joking. All of a sudden friend stands up, really angry, and says "I'm going for a walk." We apologise for any offence but friend doesn't listen. Friend then stomps upstairs (very noisily), nearly waking up our sleeping baby on the way, grabs coat and walks out of the house.

This is past midnight in a dodgy area. DH runs after friend but friend is already out of sight.

So we sit around for an hour wondering what set friend off. We call friend's phone but it's turned off. It's late and we need to go to bed as baby is an early riser but we can't till friend gets back. Friend finally returns when DH goes out in PJs for second time, storms upstairs and doesn't want to speak about it to anyone.

Is it just me who would get really pissed off at this? I just thought it was, at best, immature (though I guess poking fun at a mate isn't particularly grown up) and overdramatic, and at best rude and inconsiderate towards one's hosts.

It's a bloody joke, for god's sake!

FunkyBoldRibena Tue 23-Dec-14 07:38:42

Obviously not funny to them. I think you all need to apologise.

IndiansInTheLobby Tue 23-Dec-14 07:38:48

Sounds like you all pick on this friend and they have had enough. I hate the 'it's a joke' line. Obviously not for your friend. I think you should all apologise to be honest.

catsoup Tue 23-Dec-14 07:38:50

Is this friend always the butt of the joke because they might have simply had enough of it. Although they could have just said enough now guys it's not funny anymore instead of stomping off.

notagainffffffffs Tue 23-Dec-14 07:39:01

You hurt their feelings and youre annoyed by that?
Yabu obviously

bigjimsdiamondmine Tue 23-Dec-14 07:40:11

It depends on the level of the joke, or what the joke was really. Does sound a little bit childish and embarrassing, surely storming off makes the situation much worse?? otoh, if it was really harsh maybe she stormed off so you didn't see them cry or get upset?

You'll have to say what the joke was wink

Bowlersarm Tue 23-Dec-14 07:40:49

Yabvvvu

You always poke fun at this friend and are surprised when they finally flip?

You owe an apology, big time, to upset someone so much that they have to walk away from the situation.

paperlace Tue 23-Dec-14 07:41:17

What was the 'joke'?

YABU unless they are generally a histronic, attention seeking type <awaits epic dripfeed>

Whocansay Tue 23-Dec-14 07:41:37

YABU. And a bully. You think this is HER fault?

Apologise to her. And stop being so nasty in the name of 'fun'.

Tinkerball Tue 23-Dec-14 07:42:15

You've made fun of a friend upset and hurt them and you're annoyed hmm. Obviously your friend didn't get the "joke".

Blondebiker4685 Tue 23-Dec-14 07:42:18

Well you always do it don't you and she doesn't like it does she? I think she probably snapped and went off to cool down after being ganged up on yet again. Maybe you should just be kinder and more sensitive

GrapeWallofChina Tue 23-Dec-14 07:42:32

YABU and frankly I suspect friend only came back as no where else to go. I think you all owe them an apology. And I can't believe you're trying to lay the guilt on their door with the whole waking baby/early riser bit.

AlpacaYourThings Tue 23-Dec-14 07:43:24

YABU for not posting the "joke" in your OP.

Sounds like your friend has had enough.

PhaedraIsMyName Tue 23-Dec-14 07:44:45

I think you need to apologise to your friend.

Party sounds awful.

DoingTheBestICan Tue 23-Dec-14 07:44:52

I really despise this 'it's a joke' line.

Doesn't matter what the 'joke' was about, your friend was obviously upset and probably sick of being the butt of your 'jokes'.

You need to act like an adult, stop being a bully and apologise.

ScrumpyBetty Tue 23-Dec-14 07:45:07

we started poking fun at one of our best friends (this isn't unusual for said friend) everyone was laughing and joking

Friend obviously didn't think it was funny, you need to sit down and have a chat. I don't think you may have realised how much you have hurt your friends' feelings or the upset that she may be feeling. If you have been poking fun at her for a long time then maybe her resentment and hurt have been slowly building up, and reached boiling point last night?

Balaboosta Tue 23-Dec-14 07:45:28

OP: We were ripping piss out of friend - like we always do. Friend got upset. Can't imagine why.

hmm Sensitivity bypass?

BumWad Tue 23-Dec-14 07:45:39

Yea OP what was the joke?

You owe your friend an apology, and stop being nasty bastards all the time

Blondebiker4685 Tue 23-Dec-14 07:46:54

Sod the baby, it's not about the baby.

DragonRojo Tue 23-Dec-14 07:47:15

poor friend. Fancy going to a party and ending up being bullied by the other attendees. She has probably finally realised that you are no friends. Nice Xmas presentsad

CornChips Tue 23-Dec-14 07:47:19

You need to grovel, not just apologise.

How awful for your friend to be in a friendship group where everyone pokes fun at him/her.

PhaedraIsMyName Tue 23-Dec-14 07:47:40

I love the little touch about your martyr of a husband going out to look for her in his pyjamas- that was his choice not to get dressed.

bigjimsdiamondmine Tue 23-Dec-14 07:48:29

what were you saying??

youarekiddingme Tue 23-Dec-14 07:48:49

YABU. Some people are the continual butt of the jokes because they don't have the self esteem to say from the off it actually isn't that funny.
But everyone has their limits and those with self esteem often only find the confidence to stand up for themselves when they are angry.

You all have a lot of apologising to do this morning - and plenty of listening too. And listen - don't sit there trying to defend your actions.

Blondebiker4685 Tue 23-Dec-14 07:49:35

Why do you always gang up on her? Does it make you feel good/superior

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